By Kendra Holliday | November 13, 2021
I have many wonderful clients. One of my favorites is an older gentleman. We’ve been exploring together since 2013!
He’s sweet, considerate, brilliant, generous, respectful, easy going…I love him!
He greatly admires strong, intelligent women – for REAL, he’s not just saying that like so many other men do. His actions match his words.
Usually, our sessions involve me taking on the role of a bossy, demanding woman, such as a stepmother or teacher or nurse. But every once in a while, he tries to get outside his comfort zone and he assumes the power position, such as creepy boss “Mr. Jones.”
Recently, he suggested this roleplay to me:
How about a scenario where you play an aspiring young actress being harassed by a Harvey Weinstein type? Can you stomach that? The casting couch wasn’t just a myth. LOL
I said sure! We set up a time, and he sent me this note:
I was very impressed with your audition videos and I think you are a promising prospect for the lead role in a romance-adventure movie. I’m looking forward to our meeting tomorrow to discuss the script and where we go from here.
I went to his “hotel room” to meet with him. He acted all slimy and sociopathically “charming”.
As I sat on the couch, he excused himself to go to the bathroom to take a shower, due to his busy schedule, and when he came out, he was only wearing a towel around his waist!
It was so fun resisting his relentless wheedling and creepy advances. Sometimes, roleplay scenes can be very draining, but his sessions always feel fun and playful.
He did research for his role as Harvey. He asked me to give him a “harmless” massage, and used some of the lines he read in interviews, such as “C’mon, don’t embarrass me,” and “Don’t ruin your friendship with me for five minutes.”
When he finally ejaculated, I broke character by asking, “Should I get a potted plant for you to cum in?”
After our session, he sent me a note:
Thanks for being such a good sport today and putting up with “gross advances”. You definitely “earned” that movie contract!
Keep in mind that Harvey had multiple layers of coercion and defense I didn’t roleplay, and he got countless women stopped in his defense layers for many years. If you reported it to police and got a lawyer, he would have his lawyers threaten you with a countersuit, and then offer a Non Disclosure Agreement with $100,000-$500,000 settlement. But the women who signed those agreements often regretted it because they became trapped in the worst possible way — they couldn’t talk to anyone about what happened, which is psychologically the worst way to deal with a trauma. Technically, you weren’t even allowed to share it with a therapist.
Then if you went to the media, he tried to settle with an NDA, which again prevented you from telling your story to the media.
Then if the media was working on the story, he’d have another media buy the story exclusively, and then “kill it” by never publishing it, again leaving you with no permission to tell your story anywhere.
Then if you succeeded in getting the story out, he would threaten you with a defamation lawsuit, leaving you with the possibility of losing and having to pay Harvey if you couldn’t prove what was often not provable in the first place.
And if those things didn’t work, a company Harvey had hired to “manage” the situation would hire still shadier characters, sometimes burly guys with Russian accents and names like “Igor” to trail you around and intimidate you, without doing anything illegal.
Total psychological warfare.
He went on to say:
The session convinced me even more that I would never want to be Harvey Weinstein, even with all the money, fame, and success. It just seems like such a shallow pleasure, completely devoid of a mutual sharing of fun and positivity, humor, shared discovery and also the validation of having someone think you’re an honorable, trustworthy and kind person. And on top of that, every moment with an unwilling partner is an experience of personal rejection.
In short, it’s kind of a way of proving to yourself that you’re so pathetic that the only way you can have intimacy is by threatening women with the loss of their careers, and even then they are trying to reject you. It makes no sense to me.
I still feel there is much to learn. Thank you for being such a great teacher!
Hear, hear! I know Harvey is a narcissist and sociopath, but I truly don’t understand how some people can run around exploiting others, instead of lifting them up.
Thank goddess for the good humans in the world!