Kendra Holliday Podcast Interviews

Kendra,

I am so happy to have just discovered you and your site after learning about you on the strangers podcast. I’m also a huge fan of podcasts, mental illness happy hour is one I recommend as well. If you haven’t yet spoken to the host, Paul, I’m sure he would love to have you on, and it would probably be great exposure for both of you. Anyways, the reason I really wanted to comment was just to let you know that I think what you are doing is too amazing for words, groundbreaking honestly. I also started in escort work when I really just needed the money. I knew absolutely nothing about it and basically jumped in with both feet which now looking back on it, I can’t believe some of the risks I took and situations I put myself in just being inexperienced, naive, and broke. But I learned so much and found so many things I would have never expected. Every preconceived idea of sex work, sex workers, its consumers and even men in general was turned upside down and inside out. I’m sure you have some idea of what I mean. And I found that I LOVED it! I was smart enough thank god that from the very beginning I established firm professional boundaries, like you and Lea discussed. And sometimes I DID enjoy the sex. But that’s where I had a hard time drawing the line, because I mistakenly believed that to enjoy the physical aspect was somehow shameful, and that showing it too much was giving up my power or my control over the situation with ny client, leaving me vulnerable to be taken advantage of. But I just knew, I could feel it, that this was about more than sex for most of these men, even if they didn’t realize it themselves. I loved that I could have a positive impact in so many different ways depending on the client. I could see that there was something really valuable and therapeutic in what I was doing, and I wanted to expand that aspect of it, I just couldn’t quite articulate it or figure out how to create that niche for myself, as you have done. Unfortunately before I could put too much thought into it, the feds hacked my online accounts and a week later, my biggest advertising tool,ifeline basically, was shut down and a lawsuit against its operators was underway. I decided to move on, but have never fully recovered since then. I so miss the work I was doing and all of my clients, and recently have been considering starting again with a more realized, professional business that focuses more on the therapeutic benefits instead of just “escorting”. I am so so glad I heard your interview with Lea, you have put in clear concise terms what I had been trying to figure out and the direction in which I had hoped to take my work, before it all disintegrated in front of me. So sorry for the long and rambling comment but you just don’t even know! You are inspiring and have given me the understanding of what is I want, and lit the fire under my ass to finally do it! I hope that I can eventually talk with you as I am preparing to get back to work. If you or anybody out there has other resources to point me towards, I’m all ears, as this time around I hope to venture into this with as much knowledge and information as possible, so that I can not only stay safe and be successful, but to truly be an understanding and beneficial service provider to the new clients i meet. Thank you again for the work that you do Kendra! With all this sex poitivity and activism, maybe in our lifetime we can be truly “out” without the built in prejudices or constant threat of interference by law enforcement. I’ll never understand why a business transaction between two consenting adults, both of whom walk away happy and better off, is illegal… While perps of crimes that leave behind traumatized victims are out there offending again and again. Sorry, rant over. Much love and well wishes to you Kendra

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I’ve listened to quite a few of the podcasts you were featured on. You’re Famous! By the way, I have an award winning podcast myself. My podcast discusses sex work from an Urban point of view.

https://ebonybodyworks.podbean.com/

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