Do You Want a Daddy Dom? I Do.

By Kendra Holliday | April 24, 2019

Such a good feeling.

Such a good feeling.

My friend wrote this essay on Daddy Doms, and wow did it hit home. I’ve been thinking about it ever since I read it on FetLife (republished here with permission):

“I have been asked several times what a Daddy Dom is. First, I want everyone to know it has NOTHING to do with incest, and it isn’t ageplay or any fetish to do with children. I can only say what it means to me; others may have a different impression.

In my view, a Daddy Dom is the most tender of all Dominants. He loves His little one with an undying passion. He always has his submissive’s best interest in mind, even when it conflicts with his personal desires. That doesn’t mean that he gives into her every whim. There can be a huge difference in her desires and her real needs. He has to be able to make that sacrifice for her if need be. And yes, at times he does punish her. This usually hurts him just as much if not more than her, but he will always do what’s best for her.

He helps her set and reach her goals in life, not just in the lifestyle. He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be, not for HIM but for her ! He’s not just looking to make her a better submissive, but a better person in general.

He becomes many things in her life, a mentor, a teacher, a protector, a guide, AND… a lover! He offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. He is consistent in his actions so that she knows what to expect from him. She knows she can depend on him!

He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing all along that he can’t! SO … it is up to him to prepare her for whatever life may throw her way and be there to comfort her when things go wrong. Knowing she will run to him when she becomes overwhelmed or frightened. The Daddy Dom will listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly they may sound, to her they are real and he will help her confront them. He slays her dragons; he is her “Knight in Shining Armor”.

The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams, desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves him enough to open herself up so totally to him. He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. She is His little one, and he loves her unconditionally.

There is nothing more satisfying to him than to see her succeed, to watch as she grows as a person. He revels in her daily accomplishments almost as much as she does herself.

He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself he will whisper encouraging words for her. When she feels ugly he will reassure her how beautiful she is to him … when she is scared he will be her safety net. She is his pride and joy … his main comfort in life … his reason for living. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way he cares for her. Even though she is all woman, she is his little one and he is her Daddy! Just remember, he may be a Daddy, but he is still a Dom!”


Kinky Casey 2012-03-28 03:27:43

What a lovely definition. I always struggle when people ask me the question… There is so much to being in a Daddy/little relationship yet its also very simple once it happens. Sorta magic. πŸ™‚


lilqtsub 2012-04-02 01:39:54

such a beautiful piece. i don’t know what DaddyDoms get in return, but they certainly give without hesitation. i have been a lucky one on the receiving end for over a year. i recently tried to define it myself in

been following you for some time… you’re wonderful. <3


Kim 2013-07-04 06:52:33

This is what I need, Ive been looking but can’t find. A place where I can go to where I don’t have to be strong, a daddy.


jlh 2014-08-07 17:42:58

holy crap that sums up how i am… im so glad my friend showed me this…


babygirlginger 2015-03-03 07:37:06

This truly touched my heart to hear the definition of something so dear. To experience this type of love is so precious and i am very blessed to have found this type of love. Thank for the article that describes the man of my dreams.


Gigi Spanks 2019-05-01 07:22:48

Kendra, thank you for posting! This is such a great description of what a Daddy Dom is and I couldn’t help but to think about my Daddy while I was reading it. Please pass along my praise to the friend who wrote this!


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