Category Archives: Sex Toys

My Pleasure Tool Cabinet

By Kendra Holliday | October 7, 2022

It’s fun comparing my current sex toy collection with my inventory in 2013 – you can see pics here.

I’ve taken to calling “sex toys” pleasure tools, as it’s more fitting. The term “sex toys” remind me of the words “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” – outdated.

Pleasure tool etymology = prepare to please.

I’ve woefully neglected my collection – the cabinet was all dusty, and all the devices were dead.

So, one morning, I gave it a deep clean and tidied things up. It was a wonderful way to mindfully reacquaint myself with so many blasts from my past.

First, I culled the collection, discarding all the decrepit items – old, hard plastic, goofy shapes, the kind of material that attracts lint, gag gifts…

Eew! Bye, bye, yuck yuck. 🙂

Taking out the trash

Next, I emptied the cabinet and dusted it. I cleaned all the high quality tools, and spent a long time pairing them with their charging cords and plugging them in. You should have seen it – my house had colorful devices dangling and blinking from every outlet, like a kinky little disco.

Here’s the end result. TA DA! Behold the glory!

Pleasure tools, 2022


Tenga Aero Cobalt Ring

By Kendra Holliday | May 2, 2021

Years ago, I used to write sex toy reviews all the time, but after a while, it got old, so I stopped doing it.

But now, I have good, NEW reasons to write reviews – I’m now a Tenga affiliate! Tenga is one of my favorite toy companies – I’ve been singing their praises for years, and they keep coming up with new and exciting designs and promotions.

This was a great month to sign up, as it’s May Masturbation Challenge! #doitinmay

This month-long celebration dovetails nicely into my running project of keeping track of how many orgasms I have this year – as of right now, I’ve had 167 so far in 2021. 🙂

(BTW, I personally prefer using the words “self pleasure” and “pleasure tools” for the words “masturbation” and “sex toys.”)

Tenga almost makes me wish I had a penis! But they also have great toys for clits, too! Like this super silky textured, sushi-inspired design, iroha+ TORI. It reminds me of a vibrating tongue!

Being an affiliate has many perks, including getting to try out brand new designs. One that will be available in the US later this year is called the Tenga Aero Cobalt Ring.

Tenga Aero Cobalt Ring

Doesn’t it resemble an air freshener?! It’s such a high tech, ingenious design. It comes in two versions – Cobalt and Silver. Cobalt offers more suction, Silver is more spiral sensation:


Aneros Vice 2

By Kendra Holliday | March 11, 2021

Lately, I’ve taken to calling sex toys “pleasure tools,” as it seems a more accurate description.

As you probably know, I offer sex-positive consultations, in which I offer feedback and suggestions for a healthier, happier life. Of course all of my oftentimes unconventional advice is take it or leave it, but I always feel pleased when a person actually takes my advice and DOES THE WORK, i.e., reads the books, listens to the podcasts, and procures the pleasure tools I recommend.

One such man is a lumberjack up in New England. We’ve been enjoying monthly online sessions during the pandemic. He’s looked into my mentors Joan Price and Barbara Carrellas, and has even signed up for classes and expanded his pleasure tool collection. Honestly, he’s shared as many resources with me as I have with him. My favorite relationships are the kind where we learn and grow together. (If you aren’t able to book sessions with me, you can always get free ideas from reading this blog or following me on twitter.)

He saw a review of Aneros prostate massagers on here and decided to get one. Not long after that, he upgraded to a vibrating version called Vice 2. He reported such stunning sensations, I asked him to write a guest post review of it. Here it is!

Aneros Vice 2

“I first learned of Aneros from Kendra. I had shared with her during one of our online sessions that I sometimes felt a wonderful tingling sensation around my anus as I felt myself leading up to climax. Not very macho sounding, but true all the same. She suggested I read a blog post that her partner had written about the Aneros. So I did and I followed a link to the Aneros website.

(I want to take a moment to say that if you are not hiring Kendra for some online fun and sexy conversation, you are missing out!)

I didn’t buy one right away, as I didn’t think it was right for me – the only times I’ve ever had something up my ass was during a medical procedure or that one time I got a lingam massage. The Tantrica offered to massage my prostate and I said I was willing to give it a try. I didn’t really enjoy it, through no fault on her part; she was great. The lingam massage overall was amazing, just not that anal penetration part. I figured that sort of thing wasn’t for me.

One thing from the Aneros website that did catch my eye was the therapeutic side of their products and since I’m in my mid-fifties and on Flomax (tamsulosin) for my prostate, I kept thinking about it. One thing about Flomax is that as a side effect it can dry up your semen and that, my friends, SUCKS. Not being able to actually ejaculate while still orgasming is very unsatisfying for me. So I decided to purchase one to see if it would help. I ordered the Helix SYN Trident.


Crystal Delights Ceramic Dildo

By Kendra Holliday | February 5, 2021

Crystal Delights Ceramic Crystal dildo

Ooh, la, la.

Check out this Crystal Delights natural sex toys ceramic dildo.

All Crystal Delights sex toys are made from natural materials that are 100% body friendly and body safe. Materials that are free of Phthalates, latex and any other nasties often linked to sex toys.

As a company that is ecologically friendly and environmentally aware, Crystal Delights are committed to providing you with the highest quality natural sex toys, handmade from mother nature’s finest materials in ways that are kind and loving towards your body and the earth.

Each toy is hand crafted by highly skilled artisans who have helped design sex toys that look just as great as they feel. Every toy has its own Swarovski crystal embedded within it – which means that no two toys are exactly the same. Each one is as unique and individual as you are.

I used my gorgeous dildo for the very first time during a hot threesome.

I was with Matthew and dayglow. He had us lie back and pleasure ourselves as he stood over us, gazing at us with lustful appreciation, stroking his dick.

dayglow is tall and thin, with many gorgeous tattoos and a pierced pussy. Her thatch of pubic hair is natural blond. She used her silicone vibrator.

I was SO excited to debut the ceramic dildo. What does it remind you of? It’s one of the most artistic toys I own – I LOVE the colors. It looks like a mysterious relic, nothing like the pictures I saw when I chose it – they really are all one-of-a-kind. I can’t even tell you what color the Swarovski crystal is – it winks and glitters like a peacock, a fortune teller, a beautiful dream.

I wondered about the honey dipper head – would it be big enough? I was delighted to discover that it worked perfectly with my g-spot, the ridges were delicious! It makes a great tool if squirting is your objective. The flared base made for easy handling, too.

I was glad when Matthew took over and fucked us both with our toys at the same time – it made it much easier to lie back and bask in the sensations, except I kept craning my neck looking to see him manipulate her pussy with his hairy, highly skilled hand. I love watching live porn!

Properly primed, we put aside the toys – I carefully placed the ceramic dildo on the dresser, to be washed later and put back in its silk-lined, padded protective pouch.

And then we fell into this perfect scenario where dayglow and I pretended to be sister wives worshiping our Master. It was all about all of us – loving, erotic, nasty, and oh, so good.

You can get your own crystal accented, work-of-art natural sex toy here.

But if you’re in the market for a threesome, you’re on your own.

Tenga Flip Hole

By Matthew | October 20, 2020

A post by my partner, Matthew!

One of the many benefits of having a relationship with a Sex Goddess Slut To Fuck is getting to check out awesome sex toys.

A while back Kendra delivered my now old, worn, well traveled and definitely abused friend, Jesse Jane to me. After all the good times JJ and I had together, (I passed her on to our friends in Colorado to take on their cross country trip, I wonder where she is now?) I was down for another round of male sex toy reviewing.

This time however, Kendra stepped it up a rung or twelve on the high tech sex toy ladder.She sent an email with a picture and a note saying “Look what is coming for you!!” I had just seen a snippet of a show highlighting the top innovations of that last year or so and the Tenga Flip Hole was high on the list.

“Fuck Yeah Slut!!!!” I replied.

The Tenga flip hole with lotion

She seemed even more excited than I was when it arrived. “Oh My God, Oh My God I wish I had a dick!!” she shrieked as we opened the sleek looking package. The Tenga website proclaims, “A blanket of bliss awaits within!”

I had heard a lot about other tube style tools for men but never tried one. I was pretty hyped up for my first poke to be with the Tenga.

It comes with three vials of lube, or as they call it, “Hole Lotion”: Mild, Real and Wild.

The inside of this tool looks like an inverted porcupine space age bumpy crater laden landscape made of an extremely inviting soft and pliable silicone. I seriously couldn’t wait to get my dick into this thing.

On my first expedition into this exotic paradise I used the “Real” lube.  Both the “Real” and “Mild” lubes are relatively thick which I liked a lot. It was really easy to apply the lube as the Tenga is hinged and folds open like a gun case.

There are three points at which you can apply pressure while sliding it on and off of your cock.   Each one of them creates a different sensation. One gives a suction type effect, another makes everything a bit tighter and the third makes focuses sensation a bit more on the head.


The color scheme and design made me feel like I was fucking Eve from Wall-E. Robo fetish bitches!!!

It didn’t take me long to bust my shit!!! This thing felt fucking great. The landscape is really unique and not the least bit over stimulating. I found that the combination of pressure plus the option to rotate the Tenga in a full circle offers differing enough sensations that anyone can find their “spot.”

I couldn’t tell a marked difference between the “Real” and Mild” vilals of lube but I can tell you that the vile “Wild” lube is not for me. It has something in it that gives that sort of mild BenGay/IcyHot effect which I am not into at all.

The clean up is really easy as well due to the folding design. All of the cum stays in the cracks and crevices inside so their is little “evidence” left at the scene. Walk it to the sink and give it a quick rinse, let it dry and that is that.

The instruction manual says the Tenga can be used about fifty times before it starts to wear out. I plan on finding out just how many strokes it takes to get to the center of this Fuck Hole Pop. Three down so far!!!

The Tenga is to the cock as the Hitachi Magic Wand is to the clit.

A must have for any person with a cock who masturbates.

Handcrafted Wooden Dildo

By Kendra Holliday | April 5, 2019

One time I asked Annie Sprinkle who her last sex partner was. She replied:

“Yesterday I cruised a tree that was really sexy. I went up and fondled and sniffed it. It had this beautiful strong beauty…”

I have to admit, her answer took me by surprise.

But wow if you LOVE nature, it makes total sense to take tree hugging to a new level.

I told a friend about Annie’s Ecosexual ways, and she admitted that when she runs, she feels vibrations from the trees. The trees reach out to her.

All this tree talk had me intrigued, so I went right out and bought a wood dildo so I could fuck a tree, too. SAFELY, mind you. I don’t want splinters.

I looked up wood dildos on EdenFantasys and pulled up this beautiful lineup. This one stood out, so I ordered the darker version. Visually, dark wood is more appealing to me than blond.

It arrived in a purple velvet pouch. I was amazed at how lightweight it is; it has the airiness of cork, but is solid hardwood. I looked up the manufacturer – what a hippie! He has a FAQ page where people can ask about splinters, sustainability and cleanliness. Most of the wood he uses is found on the forest floor. I think this wood is Celam, a lustrous dark red with brown lines, a hardwood from Mexico similar to Mahogany.

My lovely super smooth dildo glows like a tiger’s eye and smells like cedar. Very warm and inviting, unlike the stone and glass I’ve tried.

The pictures don’t do him justice. You MUST see him in person to fully appreciate his radiant beauty. I’ve named him Tapio, after a Finnish forest deity, often referenced as “bear-king, ruler of the forest.”

Let me tell you, he is a very special dildo. He is the most living inanimate object I’ve ever fucked. I cannot tell a lie, this Pinnochio appendage is AMAZING. I prefer wood over glass or stone. I can’t believe it took me this long to get around to trying it!

I feel affectionate towards Tapio. When I stick him in my pussy, I don’t want to take him out. I lingered so long in bed with him that when I finally reluctantly pulled him out, he kindof stuck to my vagina. I think we tried to become one with each other. To clean him, I just wiped him down.

The wood dildo site has this to say about the varnish: “Each dildo is finished with at least five coats of Salad Bowl Finish, a food-quality varnish. The finish seals the wood, making them safe, waterproof, and natural-feeling. No dyes or stains.” Seriously, go check out all the different woods and designs!

When I play with Tapio with Matthew, it feels like a threesome. My little wooden soldier feels like he has a soul, like there’s energy vibrating from him. I know this sounds really weird and I’m not describing it well, but I’m at a loss for words.

I’m a tree fucker and I’m not ashamed to admit it.

photo by Stan Strembicki

If you ever come visit me at my home, you’ll see Tapio on display in my impressive toy cabinet!

Hot Octopuss

By Kendra Holliday | September 26, 2018

Back in March, I went to London to present at Eroticon conference. While there, I finally met famous fellow sex blogger, Molly Moore.

She introduced me to a London based adult toy company, Hot Octopuss. Hot Octopuss “creates next generation toys that are designed to fit into people’s lifestyles.” Their aim is “to create products that go beyond conventional thinking and challenge perceptions of how sex toys should look and function.”

With so many toys on the market, this is a lofty goal, but they certainly pull it off.

Not only do they strive to create unconventional products, they embrace the fact that we live outside a hetero-normative porn screen. Their edgy website features provocative images of gender blending – their models redefine sexy confidence! Mmm, that sexy bearded gent with the classic look!

They sent me two of their products to check out and review. I eagerly opened up the package as soon as it arrived.

The Queen Bee is on the left, and is meant for clitoral stimulation. The Pulse III Duo is on the right, and is meant for penis play.

Queen Bee and Pulse Duo

I’ll cover the Queen Bee first.

The design is quite unusual – most vibrating toys are pink and purple, but this one comes in gunmetal grey. When I showed it to people, they immediately thought of a hairbrush or microphone.

I’m sure you could leave this around and people would have NO idea it was meant for genital stimulation.

Queen Bee, by Hot Octopuss

The style wasn’t great for me, though the paddle shape made it easy to hold. Unfortunately, the sound was the dealbreaker for me. Hear for yourself:


Nuru Lube Fantasy Cums True!

By Kendra Holliday | July 9, 2018

Nuru gel!




Remember this post: Matthew emailed me this porn clip featuring “nuru massage” and said.

“This is absolutely going to happen.”

It finally did.

Back then, we had no idea what this Nuru gel was all about. We wondered if it was a gimmick. Surely it wasn’t as fantastic and flawless as the website claimed:

“The nuru gel is made from deep seaweed (Nori) and is transparent, tasteless, odorless, extremely slippery and smooth.”

But hey – guess what?

It was amazing. Incredible. Exceeded expectations. It made for a very special evening. It’s like a spa workshop for couples. It was like an adult waterpark. It was JUST LIKE THE VIDEOS. Except I’m not a super hot Asian chick.

Here’s what you need to do:


That’s right, snatch up that boring ugly looking bottle. Don’t judge a book by its cover. Might as well get two while you’re at it, cuz you’ll want to do it again in a couple months. Or sooner if you get really turned on touching flesh like you’re a blind person who just got out of solitary confinement. Or like you’re a starving lion and your partner is a steakumm. Or like you’re an over-the-top hedonist sensualist at the Playboy mansion with a bottle of Viagra.


The Bumper

By Kendra Holliday | June 23, 2018

Go ahead – unbox The Bumper!

As you probably know, I’m not a size queen. I’m a fan of average size penises. Bigger dicks can limit options!

So when a company a while back asked me if I would try out a penis extender device, I passed. It was too Frankenweenie for me.

But recently, I learned of another product that can be used with big dicks – The Bumper! The Bumper is good for those who are plumper – down there.

Here is some info from the website:

When it comes to sex and relationships we know you’ve probably heard and seen it all. That’s why we would like to throw something new your way- the Bumper from Perfect Fit.

The Bumper is the first-ever adult product that cushions deep thrusts during intercourse, providing an opportunity for more passionate sex without restraint to put it simply…. more cushin for the pushin’.

Comprised of ultra-soft material and made of a two-part system: The Bumper™ Thrust Buffer™ and the Donut Buffer. Either one can be used independently or together to create a thick and protective cushion for when the thrusts get deep-absorbing some of the bumping and providing the sensation of maximum depth for the penis.

I’ll be honest – I was VERY skeptical. It looked unwieldy and impractical, not very sexy. Here’s what it looks like out of the box:

The Bumper out of the box


Helpful illustration of The Bumper in place

But I was intrigued, so I decided to give it a test drive.


A Priceless PSA from Joan Price

By Kendra Holliday | February 11, 2018

My friend Joan Price is an ageless sexuality educator, and she has a free webinar on safer sex for seniors. Here it is – I queued it up to my favorite part. Please watch it for 20 seconds, then feel free to watch all of it. 🙂

Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are

By Kendra Holliday | November 25, 2016

The other day, my friend told me he wanted to come out, but he was afraid.

He’s a polyamorous bisexual swinger, and was worried about judgement.

So, I made this video offering tips on coming out.

He watched it and said, “My only hesitation around coming out is the potential adverse impact on our 10 yr old daughter. If it wasn’t for that, I would have done it already. I feel like we need to come out to her first. I don’t want her to hear it from anyone but us.”

I replied, “It’s respectful to start with loved ones first, you’re so right.”

And then, I made this video.

Well, guess what!

He took the plunge, and talked to his daughter. And you know what? It went fine!

He reported, “I did it! I talked to our daughter! We are out to her! It was very uneventful. I had an opening and I took it. She was very open and understanding and said ‘Do whatever you want as long as you stay married.’ Once she heard we both knew about each other’s relationships and our marriage was solid, it was all good. It felt very natural and healthy.”

By no means am I taking full credit for pushing him in the right direction, but I did provide gentle encouragement and influence.

And that feels AWESOME!

OH and PS: After my daughter dug through my box of sex toys and learned what they were, I went ahead and proudly displayed them in my bedroom! It’s a shame to hide functional works of art, don’t you agree?



And, PS2: My daughter knows I have sex with most of my friends, so when she finds out I haven’t had sex with one of my friends, she is SURPRISED! LOL!

Such as, David Wraith. We have never had sex! But we’ve certainly been emotionally intimate. 😉

My brother from another mother. Photo by Ariana Bauer

My brother from another mother. Photo by Ariana Bauer

Much love and encouragement to you and your loved ones!



b-Vibe trio Remote Control Vibrating Plug

By Kendra Holliday | October 11, 2016

b-Vibe with remote

b-Vibe with remote

One of the things I LOOOOOOVE about my “job” is that I get to explore roleplay and role reversal.

This is super therapeutic for both me and my clients, because we are dealing with a patriarchal cesspool and it is EXHAUSTING us.

So, it’s nice for me to take control and power, and for the man to surrender and get in touch with his submissive side – all consensually, of course.

I take great pride in being a fantasy facilitator, a safe haven for perverts. We like to work the kinks OUT.

I’ve played with plenty of remote control vibrators meant for a woman to wear tucked in her panties at a party or bar and for her partner to control, but I haven’t been able to reverse the role – until now.

Of course butt plugs can be worn by any gender, because we ALL have assholes, but for the purpose of this review, I will focus on the man butt in the receptive role.

I had a session scheduled with a darling male client the other day, and he is joyfully creative. He has allowed me to explore things new to me – to ME! – such as the NutBuster and the Humbler (if you don’t know what those are, google them, or beg me for further explanation).

So it was with great delight I was able to surprise him with a test drive of the new b-Vibe trio remote control vibrating butt plug.

This thing is fucking awesome!!! Very deluxe and powerful.

Here it is, next to the Magic Wand for size comparison:

Compare size to Magic Wand

Compare size to Magic Wand

Might be intimidating to a beginner, but a good size for optimum placement and FEELS.

I love that the charger cord is labeled “b-Vibe“, so I can easily find it among my box of sex toy charger cords. Believe me, it can get confusing.

You can plug it right into any USB port to charge it. Two hours of charge = one hour of play.

The remote has a big watch battery:

Plug cord and remote battery

Plug cord and remote battery

The plug is very well designed, made with body safe silicone, a flared base, and lights up all fancy when it’s turned on (it flashes when it needs to be charged):


Pegging Pain and Pleasure

By Kendra Holliday | July 12, 2016

Years ago, I acquired this impressive, red stripey strap on:

My beautiful strap on. Photo by Stan

My beautiful strap on. Photo by Stan

But it was not great quality, so I got this black one next, which was a little bit better:

Suck it.

Suck it.

It vibrates and is a decent size, but it’s still not the superior quality I deserve.

A friend of mine showed me this amazing corset design fit for a Queen called Cherry Minx by Aslan Leather, and lo and behold, one of my dear and doting submissives got it for me!

Back view of red corset strapon

Back view of red corset strapon

front view of red corset strapon

front view of red corset strapon

Now I’ll need to decide on a good cock set to go with it – I’ll definitely need small, medium, and LARGE.

Whenever I do it, I’m reminded of how much work goes into thrusting. It takes practice, and makes me appreciate all the effort men put into their quest for sex.

A man I know who enjoys pegging with his wife told me he loves the act, but not the term. The term “pegging” came about years ago from a contest Dan Savage ran with his readers. It isn’t the best way to describe such an intimate, loving act, is it?


Yoni Eggs

By Kendra Holliday | June 17, 2016

Click on this pic to view eggs actual size

Click on this pic to view eggs actual size

I found out about yoni eggs by happenstance at a party, when I met a vivacious woman named Dailia. A while back, Dailia had hosted an event featuring a woman from Harlem named Makeda Voletta, aka Queen Lioness. Makeda leads workshops all over the country, featuring topics such as sensual strength training and sacred yoni eggs.

Dailia was hopping around the kitchen bragging about the yoni egg she was wearing.

I looked for an amulet or something, but she laughed.

“You can’t SEE her. She’s inside me.”

OH. DUH. Yoni = female genital region – vulva, clitoris, vagina, etc.

“So what is its purpose?” I asked.

She gushed, “She helps me stay grounded, empowered, tight, toned, stimulated, CONNECTED.”

My eyes widened. I had to find out more.

Read Makeda’s Yoni Egg Basics overview.


My Favorite Sex Toys for Men

By Kendra Holliday | May 7, 2016

The other day someone saw my sex toy curio and remarked, “You sure have a lot of toys for women in there.”



Well DUH.

My partner has a lot of toys at his house, too, more of the male and BDSM stuff.

Here are some of my favorite male toys – I recommend these all the time:

Tenga Flip Hole – My partner Matthew reviewed this a while back. I like it better than the Fleshlight. I have to say, he wrote that review five years ago, and he still has that thing and uses it from time to time! It holds up well. Personally, I think it’s really hot watching a guy jack with a toy. Sometimes I’ll look that stuff up on porn sites. It’s interesting how quiet men are when being stimulated, but when they cum, they make sexy noises that turn me on.

Tenga Egg!

Tenga Egg!

Tenga Egg – Women have their yoni eggs; men get Tenga eggs! These are so much fun! While the Flip Hole above is meant to be used again and again, the Tenga Eggs are cheaper and more disposable (though you can use than more than once if you want to). I keep a basket of them by my bed – they come in several designs.  I like experimenting with different men – some find the sensation to be spectacular. Some cum fast, some find it feels weird. One of the guys I tried it on was uncircumcised, and he wasn’t that impressed with it.

Cock rings – you can get a set of three silicone rings for less than $10. These are good to have around for backup, or just to switch things up a little. They restrict the blood flow from leaving the penis, so you get a harder, longer lasting erection. Don’t leave one on for more than 20 minutes, though – you don’t want to do any dick damage.


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