Call for Suggestions! 100 Sex Acts to Try Before You Die

By Kendra Holliday | April 10, 2012

Adam & Eve gave in to temptation and pleasure - so should you!

Playing off the 100 Foods to Eat Before You Die post yesterday, I’m going to compile a list of 100 Sex Acts to Try Before You Die, but I need your help!

What sex acts do you think should be tried before you die? They can be vanilla, kinky, sensual, wild, beautiful, intense – whatever you think will offer a person nice fodder for when they are slumped over in their wheelchair in a nursing home someday.

Leave your suggestions as a comment. Let’s make this a sex-positive community based project!

I’ll compile my favorite 100 and post the list sometime in the next few days.


muymanwell 2012-04-10 12:01:13

anal play (male or female)


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:53:15

    I included biting on the list thanks to you!


Michael Brinkley 2012-04-10 13:22:14

Fingering or hand job in a public movie theater.
Gender swapping.
Age play.

I’m interested in seeing the completed list so I can find out just how close I am to having done all of them 😀


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:53:49

    All good suggestions that got included in the list in one way or another!


2bit 2012-04-10 14:02:45

Everything stated previously, plus;

Genital torture
wax play
Knife play
Dominance play
Sensation play (feathers, ice…)
In your parents’ or your kid’s bed (goes without saying but… Not when they are present)

Can’t wait to see the list


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:54:29

    Mmm, sensation play, yes! The illicit bed idea is a clever one.


The Nerd 2012-04-10 14:24:11

Masturbating to orgasm while lying on top of or underneath a partner – what a tease!


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:54:47

    Teasing can be so sexy! Added to the list!


swedishskier 2012-04-10 14:41:37

In the snow, in the mountains, under a full moon. (Must be full combination.)
Floating on your back in freshwater (with your partner above you while you are weightless.)
Lifted skirt against a boulder from behind.
Looking into your partner’s eyes for the entirety. (intense, I haven’t completely accomplished that because its SOOOO intense!)
Multiple partners
Casual sex
Kiss the same sex


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:56:00

    You and I are on the same wavelength, swedishskier…


Weeektor 2012-04-10 15:49:49

Mutual Masturbation
Face Fucking
Rough Sex
Plain Ol’ Vanilla Sex with Someone You Love


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:56:52

    Your suggestions make me think I need to do a Kinky List!


Frank Honest 2012-04-10 17:59:36

I’ll go a different route than some of the previous posters…

Sex with someone you hate.
Sex with someone you love.
Sex with someone you are really truly angry with.
Sex with someone you don’t know the name of.


    Jem 2012-04-13 16:11:37

    “Sex with someone you don’t know the name of.”

    I’ve done this precisely once, a couple of years ago, and I wouldn’t make a habit of it, but YES!

    I was always a ‘I’ve got to really know him’ kinda gal. Then I was at a wedding, met a guy, spent two days naked in a hotel room with him. We fucked and talked about fucking, told each other deep, dark secrets about our sex lives. Incredibly empowering to have a blank slate.

    Can I add to the list?

    1. Sex with someone famous.
    2. Turning down sex. (Again, that can be *so* empowering).
    3. Take someone’s virginity. (Consensually and respectfully, of course).
    4. Someone else obliviously in the room/very close by/on the phone. (This may be a kink – my mom once rang when I was being eaten out, and my partner said ‘no, answer it’. And that call lasted an hour and I pretty much exploded the moment the call was over. Then my partner pointed out that we couldn’t assume dad hadn’t been doing the same to mom during the call.)

    The next one … this sounds so vanilla when I type it:

    5. First time with the woman on top.

    That first time, we always seem to end up basically with the man leading. Or is that just me? Anyway, my first post-divorce sex was with a guy that wanted me in charge. It was pretty conventional woman-on-top stuff, but to have all that control *first* was incredible.


      Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:59:33

      These are very good, thank you! I added the woman on top one to the list, even though that requires a woman be involved in the sex act and is not very gay male-friendly. I tried my best to make the list gender neutral.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:57:14

    Good ones! Added.


Julian Arancia 2012-04-10 18:52:04

Well, to be entirely honest, I’d have to put sex with a beautiful, hot sex blogger on the list. 🙂


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 14:00:22

    Ha, nice one. I went with “sex with someone famous.”


Min 2012-04-10 20:26:21

Fucking someone your partner picked and not knowing who untill the last moment.
Further; Being fucked by someone you never see.


    Sexual Psychic 2012-04-10 20:57:24

    On a swing. A real one or, if you’re not so limber, a sex swing.

    Hey, I’ve already done the following on the list above:

    fucking outdoors on a mountain in switzerland– with the Matterhorn over his shoulder and the moon above. But no snow beneath us… I like your style SwedishSkier.

    I got a finger job and came in a movie theater. The weird thing is, this man was trying to show me he could be wild. But 99% of the time he was the coldest fish lover I’ve ever had.

    And of course feathers, ice, whipped cream, wax play. And some of the others up there.

    I know you didn’t ask us to identify which we’d done, Kendra, but seemed like fun.

    So, also for the bucket list:
    sex on horseback – either fucking or cumming or both.
    phone sex on cam with a lover (i.e. not a pro)

    Will you be setting it up as a poll so we can check those we’ve done? And maybe also list three we haven’t done that we most want to?

    – Sallie


      Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 14:43:45

      Sexual Psychic, I have a feeling the webcam with lover item will be easier to accomplish than the one involving a horse! Very nice suggestions, I added the swing one for sure!


      ursine 2013-12-03 02:30:03

      Not to be confused with horse sex.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 14:00:53

    These need to be added to a Kinky List, Min!


Lionman 2012-04-11 03:56:19

If you mean things I have not done I still wish to do the list is now short, but “min” has the general concept.
This is the scene
Lady #1 who is a regular sex partner sets this up. She invites Lady #2, who knows me but has never had any type of sex with me, over to her place for a three way. They have a drink, etc and when Lady#2 says something like “when is your friend getting here?” Lady #2 says “He is here” and that is a my cue to come out from another room. I have a mask on that completely covers my face (small slit for eyes and just enough of a mouth slit to get my tongue out, no jewelry on, any other recognizable feature covered but otherwise nude. Lady #1 has told me exactly what Lady#2 likes, and I proceed to do that without a word spoken at any time. After we played. sucked and fucked so Lady#2 is fully satisfied, I simply turn and walk out of the room, locking the door behind me, dress and leave by a back door. When Lady#2 realizes I am not returning to the room and asks Lady#1 who it was, Lady#1 says “he will tell you when he is ready, but that could be never”.
I let several weeks go by – then I go to where Lady#2 works, or to an event she is attending, maybe her church (the more formal, public and unexpected the better) and I turn to her and say quietly “By the way, you were a great fuck last month”


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 14:44:37

    Lionman, Mmmmm! You gotta love elaborate scenarios like this! Very creative and sexy.


MDin617 2012-04-11 05:33:15

Sex with a non-primary while looking into the eyes of a non-participating primary
Trains, planes and automobiles
Spending a whole day outdoors, nude, and fucking.

More to the point, whatever you haven’t done that freaks you out the most. Rinse, and repeat.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 14:45:28

    Ha, love the rinse and repeat line! I added the naked outdoors scenario!


Kendra Holliday 2012-04-11 11:06:20

THANK YOU for all the great suggestions! Will add them to my cauldron and let you know which 100 rise to the top by Monday at the latest!


The Bee's Knees 2012-04-11 12:46:00

If were talking for the masses, some basics…

Sex with someone of the same gender
Double penetration
Threesome (mmf & mff)
Group sex
One night stand
Rough sex (to your pain tolerance)
Sensual sex, ie sensation play
Outdoor sex to include daytime & nighttime
Blind folded
Under the influence (pick yr poison)
Mutual masturbation
Make a ‘sex tape’
Take pictures
Foreign object insertion (something not made for sex used as a sex toy)
Sex with toys!
Watch porn with your partner
Watch porn alone
Writing words on your partner (humiliating or positive)
be watched
Do the watching
Orgasm without genital stimulation
Sneak off & have sex at a party
Sex during mensuration
Role playing
watersports (might be pushing it but I think its fun & harmless & worth a try)
Sex with weapons (knives, gun etc) doesn’t have to be in a threatening/rape way but in a I have all the power now what? Kind of way
Sex in a make love way, bathed, lotion, fed, pampered & pleased.
Take ‘advantage’ of someone while they’re asleep & let yourself be taken advantage of

I think for kinky people we take simple sex acts for granted sometimes. I’m often surprised how many people I talk to haven’t done ‘the basics’. I participated in most of those listed before I was even of age so I have a skewed sense of what is typical, clearly.


    The Bee's Knees 2012-04-11 12:54:58

    I just read some of the other suggestions and want to go on record that I never had phone sex until my current partner, it took me 36 years. Ha! I’m so shy that I thought I would go my whole life without it.


      The Bee's Knees 2012-04-11 13:09:11

      I forgot…

      Sex in a car
      Sex on a boat
      Sex in a bar or club
      Deep throat
      Significant age difference


        Jem 2012-04-13 19:05:40

        Your post reads like a Dr Seuss!


      Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 14:46:14

      SO many great suggestions, most made it on the list, and some should be added to a Kinky List!


swedishskier 2012-04-11 14:02:17

How could I forget in the pouring down rain?
I like The Bee’s Knees answers.

It’s funny. Usually when I see lists like these, I want to have done most, if not all of them. And whatever I haven’t done/read/eaten usually goes on a list to get done/read/eaten. But with the sex list, I don’t think that’ll be the case. I’m pretty vanilla, which I don’t like to say because I think it sounds boring. But vanilla sex is not boring. Especially when you’re creative and sensual. I think that’s the list for me: Be creative and sensual and active in your sex life for the duration of your life.


pscherry78 2012-04-12 04:36:39

I know I saw one or two of my suggestions already, but here goes:
Receive a BJ while driving a car
Sex in a car
In the woods
In a pool
With an ice chilled vagina
Sex in the shower
In the bathtub too
On an outdoor balcony, while looking at beautiful scenery
In the bathroom, while at a wedding


    Gary 2012-04-14 04:57:03

    MMM sexy list. I would love to help you fulfull some of these.
    email me.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 14:47:01

    Good ones, added! The ice chilled vagina made me shiver yikes! 🙂


Rhett 2012-04-12 15:16:09

Sex with a stranger
Sex in the shower
Having the hot owner of a website sit on your face


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 14:47:34

    I think these are great suggestions 🙂


WD 2012-04-12 23:31:09

After 36 plus years of marriage, the last 20 being close to or completely sexless, I would love to just hook up with a woman with passion, libido, imagination and a parallel life to mine. List of one. Cheers.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 14:48:42

    I am so sorry to hear that! I added one to the list especially for you… please make a change in your life so that you get to realize more of your fantasies.


QG 2012-04-13 00:01:13

Well, we have done all of the above plus, with the exception of additional partners… Hmmmmmm now what… We must think of something different…


Barry 2012-04-22 05:22:59

When I was in a bdsm relationship, one of my favorite activities was to perform a blowjob on another guy while being spanked firmly by my Dominatrix. The more of her female friends that were present to observe…the more fun it was.


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