Boundaries and Balance

By Kendra Holliday | October 23, 2019


Three is my magic number.

I was born 3-23-73.

I’m really good at threesomes. 🙂

I have sacred feminine triangles all over my body – my hairy underarms and pubic hair represents one; my breasts and belly represent another.

I find that my life is best balanced when I’m nurturing these three things:

Professional career – represented by my site Be Open and Honest

Personal life – represented by this blog!

Philanthropic endeavors – represented by Sex Positive St. Louis, my all-volunteer community organization

Sometimes, things get out of whack, and my personal life suffers, or my volunteer efforts lag, but I’ve found that the best way to keep things balanced is to ENFORCE MY BOUNDARIES.

I know my boundaries, but they are always being pushed by other people and forces, and it’s exhausting! They don’t mean to do it, but that’s life as a sex worker whose motto is: NEVER BORED.

Here are some examples of my boundaries:

  • I always use condoms with intercourse. I don’t let random men rub their penis on my vulva.
  • I don’t receive anal. It’s not an erogenous zone for me. But I’ll gladly give it! 😉
  • I do things on my own terms. If someone contacts me and wants to work with me but doesn’t want to follow my guidelines, then I don’t work with them. I have my protocol in place for a reason.

It’s funny, but I find that the more I put out there, the more some people expect. For instance, I post a Panty of the Day pic on Twitter, and I’ll have men send me Direct Messages asking for more free pics.

When I shaved my head back in 2011 and started growing it back, I had shaved head fetish men DEMAND I shave my head again!

I guess some men see a beacon of open female energy and think it’s a good source to tap. But you don’t want to drain it dry!

Yes, female energy is renewable, but it has to be rationed. The more you push for female energy, the more you push it AWAY.

I’d like to suggest that you be grateful for what is offered, and if you want more, give something back in return.

I get a lot of long emails from people asking for advice. I try to respond to as many as I can with a brief reply offering a quick suggestion or resource, and tell them if they’d like to discuss it in more depth, they can schedule a consult with me.

My time, energy, and expertise are valuable. I know not everyone can afford to book appointments, so that is why I share great info on Twitter daily, post lots of free content here on this blog, and host events, most of which are free.

Thank you for understanding my position, and I’m glad you are here to soak up my good female energy!



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