100 Sex Acts to Try Before You Die

By Kendra Holliday | March 25, 2018

Have a legendary sex life!

I asked readers to suggest sex acts that everyone should try at least once. Now, this list may not be as kinky as you might expect. That’s because I chose to focus on sensualism and intimacy over fear factor stuff.

So, you’ll find a lot of creative vanilla acts, but things like genital torture? Not so much. I was also able to consolidate a lot of things into one entry, such as anal play for rimming, receiving, pegging, etc. This gives you more flexibility when planning out your sex menu.

Thank you to everyone who contributed to this list. Please comment on how many of these things you have done, and what stands out as something you’d like to try soon!

1. masturbation
2. mutual masturbation
3. sexual encounter with person of a different gender
4. same sex encounter
5. male-female-male threesome
6. male-female-female threesome
7. orgy
8. using a condom during sex
9. using another form of birth control
10. getting/giving spanking
11. phone sex
12. webcam
13. writing/drawing on your partner
14. combine food and sex in some way
15. sex while being restrained in some way
16. one night stand
17. tantra
18. orgasm three times in one night
19. morning sex
20. nooner
21. afternoon sex
22. middle of the night sex
23. have sex while wearing a costume
24. cross dress
25. give oral sex
26. receive oral sex
27. have sex with a friend
28. wait a long time to have sex with someone you’ve been crushing on
29. get a full body massage

live like a hardcore hedonist

30. fool around on an airplane
31. have sex with an ex
32. sex in the shower or hot tub
33. sex outdoors, completely nude
34. sex with someone who has a disability
35. sex completely in the dark
36. makeup sex
37. sex in broad daylight
38. sex with someone famous
39. sex with someone at least 20 years your junior or senior
40. sex with someone of a different race
41. an afternoon spent masturbating
42. sex under the influence of drugs
43. drunk sex
44. sex surrounded by candles
45. sex with someone in the next room – shhh!
46. sex with someone in the same room – SHHH! or not, depending on the circumstances
47. hotel sex (can be cheap, classy, or clandestine)
48. simultaneous orgasm with another person
49. sneaking off for a quickie in the bathroom at a party
50. sexual act that is like an alarm clock (wakes one of you up)
51. feeling your partner’s orgasm with your hand/fingers
52. kissing deeply while cumming
53. eye contact during orgasm
54. watching or listening to other people having sex in real life
55. ravish someone
56. letting someone have their way with you – be ravished
57. intercourse fully clothed, pulled aside just enough to make it happen
58. sex with a co-worker
59. sex in the rain or in the ocean

have sex in a swing!

60. anal play (rimming/giving/receiving/pegging)
61. sex act in a movie theater
62. biting
63. voyeurism
64. exhibitionism
65. age play
66. sensation play (feathers, ice, wax…)
67. masturbating to orgasm while lying on top of or underneath a partner
68. In the snow, in the mountains, under a full moon. (must be full combination)
69. 69
70. falling asleep after sex with your partner on top or beneath you
71. two or more partners in one day (doesn’t need to be all at once)
72. sex with someone you hate
73. sex with someone you love
74. turning down sex and feeling empowered
75. sex with a virgin
76. sex with someone you don’t know the name of
77. sex on wheels – in train, bus or automobile
78. being blindfolded
79. power dynamic roleplay (boss/secretary, professor/student, doctor/patient)
80. sex with toys (everyone should try vibrator!)
81. sex in the woods or in a meadow
82. sex in a pool at night, skinny dipping
83. being on top
84. ejaculate (men and women!)
85. sex on a swing (real one or, if you’re not so limber, a sex swing)
86. sex in a park or golf course
87. watching or reading porn/erotica alone
88. watching porn or reading erotica with a partner
89. orgasm without genital stimulation (during sleep counts)

A fantasy favorite (um, chick in the corner?)

90. on an outdoor balcony, overlooking beautiful scenery
91. partnering with someone whose libido and desires matches your own
92. being treated like a King or Queen in bed
93. in the bathroom, while at a wedding, funeral, or museum
94. sex in a bar, club, or restaurant
95. sex on a beach
96. rough sex
97. being photographed nude
98. make a “sex tape”
99. make love for the last time
100. for women: having sex while floating on your back in water (with your partner above you while you are weightless)
for men: getting head by two women at once



Daddy BEAR from TN 2012-04-16 02:54:29

Truthfully I had done all 100 before I turned 30yo, and have done most of them many times (now 46yo). It shocks me to think there are sexually active adults out there who think any of the listed sensual and intimate acts are so unique, special, or out of reach, they would be on their “bucket list” for doing before death instead of just living life taking it for granted that these wonderful acts could happen any weekend or long vacation.


    Leslie 2012-04-16 13:03:38

    I’m with you! 68 is a bit specific, and not all that compelling to me. And I’ve never really met anyone famous (unless someone who *thinks* he’s famous counts…) but otherwise…pretty run-of-the-mill stuff, mostly.


      Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:30:15

      As a sex advisor, you’d be amazed at the things I’ve heard from people about fundamentally basic unrealized sex dreams. Readers of this website may be advanced sexually, but there are so many people out there who have never had an orgasm, or have never been on top, or had sex with the lights on, or have encountered countless other limitations. I wanted the list to be reasonable, not outrageous. I maintain everyone should address the list above. Do what it takes to make it happen, and once that is accomplished, then they move on to a Kinky List (if they want).


      CJ 2012-04-17 00:36:21

      I wonder if sex in a redwood hot tub, in the Tahoe mountains of northern CA ,diving into the snow after a full moon cross country ski would count?


        Kendra Holliday 2012-04-17 01:20:57

        Yes. Yes it does.


Michael Brinkley 2012-04-16 12:24:55

I’m at 93


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:51:40

    Congrats, that’s an A!


Mollena 2012-04-16 12:51:48

100 is physically impossible in the “women’s version” and that seems unfair… so I’m gonna answer the “men’s Version which puts me at 90%


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:15:28

    It must not be worded correctly then, because when someone suggested that, I said, “ooh! Yes!” because I’ve experienced that before and it is dreamy. I think we were near the edge of the pool in the shallow end. He was standing, and I was floating on my back. He was guiding my body effortlessly…


      swedishskier 2012-04-16 23:43:18

      It was similar for me but freshwater. The man said he felt like a powerful god looking down at me.


        Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:37:59

        LOVE IT.


          rat 2017-08-10 21:06:07

          I have a new relationship and I a, in my sixties and she has just reached the golden age. I have done basically everything on the list, or at least the most practical versions of them. My question is how to get her interested in at least some of them. She has had a very vanilla sex life with her ex and only her ex. She is wanting to try but says she doesn’t know what to say or do. How do I get her on the way without damaging the relationship as, after all, these things are meant to enhance the relationship. I obviously have a strong sex drive and a need for experimentation but have lonely ever done these things, and a few more probably, with my partner and not with one nighters.

          Kendra Holliday 2017-08-11 02:38:47

          Short answer: Both of you read or listen or look into the book Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. http://www.wbur.org/radioboston/2015/03/12/emily-nagoski

          For more in depth discussion, book a consult with me! http://beopenandhonest.com/reservation-and-cancellation-policy/

Mollena 2012-04-16 13:03:46

I dunno Daddy Bear: fucking in a bathroom during a funeral, is a bit beyond a “wonderful acts could happen any weekend or long vacation. And unless you are now celibate you have not done 99. And for those who are sober or don’t do drugs,utilizing those “enhancements” isn’t something to set as a goal.


    The Bee's Knees 2012-04-16 13:31:28

    I took 99 to mean in the context of a relationship that is ending & you’re knowingly making love for the last time.


      Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:37:53

      99 is open for interpretation – I wonder when the last time will be that I’ll ever have sex – will it be next week? In 40 years?

      But I was more thinking about the times I’ve had sex with someone for the last time, and how bittersweet it is…


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:41:45

    It’s true, there are many things on this list that aren’t the healthiest choices or even legal – sex outdoors can get you arrested, it’s probably not a good idea to fuck an ex, some are risky – but it is a pretty good sampling I think for LIVING and finding out what you like and don’t like. If you’ve never gotten high before, I think it’s fine to try it. If you’re sober because you’re already torn through drugs and alcohol and it fucked up your life, then yeah, I’d say you’ve been there, done that, don’t need to do it again.


      Lynn 2012-04-21 15:41:15

      Why can’t I decide to be sober BEFORE possibly having my life get fucked up by drugs and alcohol?


    Daddy BEAR from TN 2014-07-28 01:28:15


    42. Sex while under influence of drugs.
    That does not have to mean illegal drugs. I was on properly prescribed and administered opiate pain killers (drugs) and engaged in sex.

    99. Sex for the last time
    The last time with my wife who died the next day. Last time before I was paralyzed from waist down. Last time before being pronounced dead on scene (happened 3 times).There are a lot of last times.


      Kendra Holliday 2014-07-28 07:36:55

      That is so deep. Life offers so much pain, sorrow, and pleasure…


The Bee's Knees 2012-04-16 13:12:43

Things I have yet to do…

23- I rarely wear costumes, sigh. Bring me Hellboy & I’ll gladly dress up like Liz & make this happen!

34- Totally down for this.

38- Famous shamous, popularity has never held my interest. Would Hellboy count?

39- 17 years age difference is the closest I’ve been.

68- I’m adverse to fucking in snow. Js.

76- Guess I need to up my slut factor. πŸ˜‰

93- A challenge!

100- I’m not comprehending this one very well, clearly I have a poor imagination.

I’d have to say 51 is prolly my favorite to make happen and 89 is something I love when my partner makes it happen to me.


Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:24:17

Ah, swedishskier, it seems that others aren’t on your wavelength with the romantic nature scenarios described in #68 and 100, but I get it. I’m adverse to fucking in the snow too (not into being cold), but I think the dreamy situation would transcend any discomfort.


big mike 2012-04-16 13:25:28

Yeah 99 is confusing……sadly I’ve pretty much done most of that except for 93 and it kinda strikes me as one of the better acts . I imagine that if I did find a woman with my libido and desires I probably wouldent wanna go to work……ever, so it might be advantageous for me to be with someone with less libido but then I’m always wanting more from them.hmmmmmm Kendra you always make me think! I love it!


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:50:36

    Wait, why is it sad that you’ve done most the list? You WANT a high score! A high score means you’re on the right track with being in touch with your sexuality.


Andrew S 2012-04-16 13:38:59

It wasn’t my first time for many of these, but just two nights ago I knocked off 4, 16, 22, 23, 25, 26, 40, 43, 46, 52, 56, 60, 62, 70, 76, 83, 84, and 96.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 13:51:08

    Holy shit, bravo! Way to line ’em up and knock ’em down!


    Tyler W 2012-04-16 14:48:20

    I present to you the Highest-of-Fives!


      Andrew S 2012-04-16 15:38:33

      *high five*


Robin 2012-04-16 14:32:12

If I had made the list, I wouldn’t have lumped all anal play into one category. I think there are three separate things there that would have to be part of any well-rounded basic sexual menu. If you haven’t been rimmed, been penetrated anally (by fingers, toys, or cock), and (if you have a male partner) if haven’t had your finger on a prostate during their orgasm, then you’re missing out.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 15:04:37

    I think everyone should experiment with finger and tongue anal play, and if they like it, they should try other things like being penetrated by something bigger. But if they don’t enjoy the smaller stuff, they shouldn’t try the more invasive stuff just because. I think breaking down anal play into specific acts would be appropriate on a Kink List, and would probably include at least ten different things.


      SwitchMe 2012-04-16 18:33:21

      Regarding anal play…. I would disagree that anyone trying the fingers and tongues that did not like it wouldn’t want to do the more invasive stuff (interesting term). I love prostate massage, being penetrated by both dildo and cock, but am not that partial to finger only (unless it is prostate massage) and rimming is not on my list of wants at all. I know there is a spectrum of interests, but I *do* think that there are varieties of anal play that are liked differently.

      Other than that, NICE list and a neat idea overall.


JayLo 2012-04-16 14:39:33

Count me as another perfect score. Way too easy.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:38:49

    Can’t wait to see how you fare with the Kink List, JayLo!


Tyler W 2012-04-16 14:44:19

Considering I’ve only been having sex for two years and have only had 4 partners, I consider 71 a good number to have completed. This list is pretty epic and is non-specific enough that it doesn’t appeal to specific kinks. I like it.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:39:37

    Clearly you are doing the sex thing right!


Veronica3021 2012-04-16 15:04:29

I’ve gotten about 80 checked off there and I used to be an escort ;p
I can’t wait to see how many my kinky-minded but inexperienced boyfriend has (and how many more I can help cross off his list)! He has had two partners (myself included) while I on the other hand…….*guilty grin*


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:40:57

    Being an escort really helps expand your horizon, because so often you are assisting with fantasies. It’s a very creative job!


swedishskier 2012-04-16 15:20:21

I’m satisfied with an 80. I will say that I used “on wheels” literally as it was a time on rollerblades in a tennis court which was very interesting. As for people being adverse to snow- too bad. I’m adverse to sticking something in my ass. I’m down with my knees getting a little cold. The general advice around these parts is not to be scared to push yourself outside your comfort zone, so I’m going to spread that advice right about now. As for someone with a disability or a famous person, that option has never presented itself.
I think this is a great list. It represents things that most everyone should try. The discussion on this site is often about the extremes of sex and sexual identity and its a fantastic discussion to be had. This list isn’t a Most Extreme Sex Acts list though to try to score high on if you’re over the top.


Illusional 2012-04-16 21:47:20

I’m 24… and I haven’t done like… any of these. Maybe like 15 or so. T_T So sad..


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-17 01:23:59

    Illusional, I didn’t really dig into my sex adventures until I was about 32!


Jules 2012-04-16 22:19:23

Seems kind of messed up to list “someone with a disability” and “someone of a different race” on a list of things to tick off, as if they were a sex toy. I’d hate to think someone was just sleeping with me cos they’d never “done that before,” or I was some kind of erotic novelty.


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-16 22:36:19

    I dunno, it seems kind of messed up to read those things and twist it into something negative to me. Is it messed up to have a same sex encounter? Is it messed up to have sex with someone 20 years your junior or senior? I guess you could claim every single thing listed is messed up. I don’t view it that way.


      swedishskier 2012-04-16 23:42:17

      Well put! I agree.


    Jen 2012-04-19 11:13:42

    I agree Jules- my kids have disabilities, and I’d hate to think that someone was checking them off on a list. Maybe I’m just sensitive to it because historically people with disabilities have so often been targets for sexual abuse and exploitation.


      Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:43:48

      Good point. At SlutWalk St Louis July 14, we will have a panel focusing on disabilities, because people with disabilities are often targeted by sex abusers. I’m referring to consensual encounters, not exploitative. People with disabilities get horny, too!


    Veronica3021 2012-04-19 14:49:53

    I think part of the point here is to be open minded enough to try.

    When I was in highschool I befriended a blind guy, that turned into a relationship, and that turned into me taking his virginity. It wasn’t for a checkmark on a list (take that list! yea, I did a guy with a disability!! -that’s just silly) but because I cared about *him* and wasn’t turned off/away by his crosseyed appearance or his lack of vision.

    I have a strong attraction to the “nice guy” (also see nerdy and socially awkward) though. With that, I have a tendency to be with virgins or almost virgins (like the current bf). Without trying to sound conceited, I am a pretty girl with an outgoing personality. I have choices when it comes to men. I choose awkward nerd guy over popular beefcake every time.

    My first three partners were black and then after that my choices became a lot more diverse. The only girls I’ve slept with all happen to be white or hispanic. Again, not for a checkmark on a list, but because I was *open minded to the experience*.


      Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:45:22

      Yes that’s exactly my point Veronica, thank you. I had the chance to sleep with a blind man a few years ago, but I didn’t really click with him. Not only was I not that attracted to him, but he was really into dogs, and I wasn’t a dog.


Jaeleen 2012-04-16 23:32:58

Fabulous list!


CJ 2012-04-17 00:24:42

For your site maybe you could place a check box at the end of the 100 Sex Acts to Try Before You Die and a tabulation Total box Also somewhere a box for Country/State of Origin and Sex Orientation (Hopefully people would be truthful)and the # of people responding


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:46:28

    Great suggestion, but I’m not skilled enough to pull off user-friendly interfaces. But I give a good blowjob!


Matthew 2012-04-17 01:43:19

I think this list is damn near perfect for what it is!! I’ve seen many “Top 100 ______” lists and have had serious issues with at least a quarter of the list. This one….not so much. Well done!!

It seems as though I’m at 94-98, as some room for interpretation is implied. There are a couple that probably will never happen(4 and 76, with 76 being less likely than 4), but I’m totally cool with that. Most of them I have accomplished in the passed ten years of my life!!!


Rebekah Mae 2012-04-17 01:54:39

Damn, I need to get out more, I’ve done some of these things but not a lot. One of my current goals fits into the “Sex outdoors” part. I want to have sex in the middle of the road on the yellow lines. A friend of mine did that with his old ex and ever since I’ve wanted to try it. Preferably with him.


    Rebekah Mae 2012-04-17 02:00:11

    I’m only 21, but I’ve done….about 24 things off of this list. Not to shabby.


      Rebekah Mae 2012-04-19 20:19:52

      Haha, I just re-counted, I’m up to 34, I think I miscounted before and now that I’m 21 and have done 34 and a half of these things (almost had sex with a stranger, while intoxicated ) I feel semi slutty. haha. But I’m glad you think it’s a Genius on the Sex Quotient scale.


      Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:48:57

      You’re ahead of the game! If we could all live to be 100 and accomplish all 100… πŸ™‚


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:48:08

    Nice! “Sex on the yellow lines”… good luck making that happen!


Daddy BEAR from TN 2012-04-17 05:36:17

@Mollena, really, so full of assumptions and yet lacking imagination? Consider that making love is not the same as just having sex. So when the love of my life, the last person I loved body and soul, passed away so did my ability to love. The last time I made love to her would then be the last time I made love. Without love there is no love making, so yeah #99.


Monica Nobrega (@DrLikilila) 2012-04-18 18:41:19

No comments <3
I like to do all <3


cindy McMillan 2012-04-19 08:23:47

Is 71 out of 100 normal for a single 41 year old woman?


    Veronica3021 2012-04-19 14:55:50

    Normal is up to you. We are all different. We have different desires, interests, and more importantly.. limits. It’s fun to push past some limits with a good and trustworthy partner. In my opinion, 71 seems like a healthy number but that’s up to you to decide. πŸ™‚


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:49:47

    71 out of 100 sounds good to me! Try to get to 75 by the time you are 45!


Woman 2012-04-19 14:19:57


I don’t “make love” so could never do this for the last time and to my knowledge I’ve never read anything about “tantric sex” so I am uncertain if I have ever done anything tantric. And I’ve not had sex while someone else was in the room, mutual masturbation yes. Then that lead to a threesome. Does that count????


    Kendra Holliday 2012-04-20 11:50:49

    YES it counts! And you should totally look into the tantra thing – it’s awesome having a 5 minute orgasm! Some people have trained themselves to orgasm for one hour !!!!!


Mr. X 2012-04-20 16:02:09

I agree that it’s somewhat tame (and I see you’ve got the untamed version up), but one of the pleasures with these lists is being able to check off a majority of them. Thanks!


rae 2012-04-24 21:27:28

im 23 and i have 82 of these…. i guess thats not smutty?


polynewb 2014-01-15 14:35:39

I’ve really been fantasizing lately about having hot sex with a total stranger. I don’t want to know their name, ideally we’ll know nothing about one another and it will be a one time thing no matter how earth shattering because the turn on for me is suspending that one moment in time and freezing it forever.


Sandy 2014-01-15 16:50:17

I’m a boomer and I’m only at 33. But that means the first-time delicious nervousness and exhilaration of many experiences are still ahead of me!

To those who feel a sense of “accomplishment” for nearing 100%, what’s next for you? Retire from sex and reminisce? Repeat the list? Settle down to a humdrum sex life, or advance to a kinkier list which will also get exhausted at some point? Or continue with with a greater sense of mastery and appreciation of nuances, teaching others, etc.?


Sharod 2014-01-15 17:59:25

I only had sex twice but I have only done 6 of these. ANd I will be 30 in 5 months. I need some major tutoring. Just got back together with my first real gf maybe we can knock some of these off if we can get some alone time.


    Kendra Holliday 2014-01-16 06:25:53

    Practice makes perfect! Enjoy!


WD 2014-01-15 20:16:14

Hmmm, I’ve had sex with a famous person who’s had sex with a disabled person… does that count as two, or more? And does giving a woman a nipplegasm count as tantra? Inquiring minds want to know. And thanks for this awesome post. One of the most responded to I’ve seen! We’re out here!


    Kendra Holliday 2014-01-16 06:25:25

    I’d say you get bonus points.


polyguy 2014-01-16 12:47:08

77 if you count for #38


Dan 2014-01-16 18:02:46

Two hour P in the V sex S-L-O-W while kissing; without coming (me) at a Buddhist Monastery overnighter; while she came without counting. I thought it was a problem. Her? “Dear man, this is not a problem.” We resumed in the morning the old fashioned way; and I came. God came. Is intercourse anything if not a prayer?


GL 2014-01-18 12:00:05

It’s the new purity list! :o)


Nuru Gel 2014-01-20 01:47:59

I would have thought Nuru Massage would make the list!


    Kendra Holliday 2014-01-20 05:54:58

    OMG you know, after I posted this list, I remembered Nuru and thought DUH I should add it, and thought I DID, but I DIDN’T!!!! I get a spanking for that! OK gonna fix it now…


Katie 2014-02-09 15:44:30

Objecting a bit to the “get a full body massage.” Yes, massages are wonderful and sensuous, dahling, but as a massage therapist I tell you that I have to fight the “massage as a sexual thing” almost every week!


Rex Jones 2017-08-11 22:24:01

I’m VERY surprised that you didn’t include A.) For guys: Have sex with a female with hairy armpits and B.) For girls: Have sex with a male that shaves his armpits.

You’re one of the best advocates for females not shaving their underarms on YouTube, I’ve seen all of your vids relating to this subject, so I would have thought you would have had the above thrown in there or something like it.


John Mefford 2018-03-25 11:18:49

Well, I better get my sorry old ass in gear. I’m only at 57, but I’ve enjoyed every one!


Creideiki 2018-03-25 12:14:33

I surprised myself and finished with 31 out of 100; pretty good for someone who did not have a partner for almost 7 years before resuming sex again last fall. As for what I want to try, Nuru gel massage is top of the list!


Sharon Atkinson 2018-03-27 18:17:53

The one that is definitely still on my list to tick off, would have to be sex with someone famous. It’s possible, just not happened yet. Just waiting for the right time


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