Ask The Slut: Should I Fake Gagging?
Filed under: Ask The Slut - August 29, 2008 @ 6:00 amDear Slut,
I have virtually no gag reflex (one time, my doctor, while swabbing my throat for bacteria, grew extremely excited because I was apparently some sort of anomaly in this area.) I don’t mind utilizing this while giving head, and in fact I do it frequently.
My question is this: why, in pornos, do guys get so thrilled at the gurgling sounds their dicks causes a girl to make? Do they really like this? Even though I can manage a cock fucking the hell out my throat and not make a noise, should I fake it?
- Don’t bother with the spoon
Dear Spoonless,
A lot of guys get off on the gross gagging noises chicks make because it is a sign that their dick is so monstrous, she is choking on it. Also, it’s a dirty sound, and dirty = hot.
However, this is a highly subjective preference. Some guys find the sound a turn off. You should NOT fake gagging noises, that is just silly.
But, lucky you, ALL guys find what you just described hot (being able to deepthroat like a champ, to the point of impressing medical professionals).
So yeah readers, do you find gagging hot or not? And we covered dirty talk earlier in the week - what about sound effects? What sound effects do you dig during sex? Slurping? Moaning? Growling? Hyperventilating? Bed squeaking?
As for me, I like to keep it primal, and scream whenever I get the chance. And I love me some growling GRRRRRR!
(PS: Sorry, JustSomeDude - I could not for the life of me find a suitable pic to go along with this post.)
August 29th, 2008 at 7:06 am
Well, you can just try asking right? When there’s nothing in your mouth, of course.
August 29th, 2008 at 7:26 am
Gagging is super hot, but I think it’s blue eyes versus green, really. As long as there’s slurping and moaning, I wouldn’t miss it in the slightest if I were being deepthroated.
August 29th, 2008 at 7:48 am
I’m not a big fan of the gagging.
Yuck.
August 29th, 2008 at 8:42 am
I’m not too big on the choking and gagging either. On the other hand, moaning and whimpering while sucking my dick…yes please.
August 29th, 2008 at 9:04 am
What Lokey said….
What also kind of bothers me is in porn when the guy grabs the girl’s head, pinches her nose shut, and then jams his cock own her throat, causing her to gag, and in some cases puke. Why exactly is that hot? I mean, I know some men and women like it rough, but that just seems rude.
August 29th, 2008 at 9:27 am
Hi TBK,
Once again I feel compelled to disagree with your advice and risk the wrath of your legions of zombie followers.
Why shouldn’t spoonless do something that turns on her man as long as it is harmless? Why is faking gagging any different than doing other harmless sexual activities that your significant other gets off on but you do not particularly enjoy?
I’m not suggesting that spoonless should do something that creeps her out or that makes her uncomfortable but I didn’t get the impression that fake gagging was something she was ethically against.
I brace myself for the oncoming wrath.
Tom
August 29th, 2008 at 9:35 am
I don’t think we know if her man likes it or not. If it turns him on and she’s down with it, then heck she can gargle his wad and yodel The Sound of Music theme song for all I care.
I think she just mentioned that the “guys in porn” seem to like it, and she asked me if that was the norm, instead of asking her sex partner. So yeah, she should ask him if he likes it.
August 29th, 2008 at 9:41 am
How did you know I have a Julie Andrews fetish?
Tom
August 29th, 2008 at 9:49 am
Wow, this is a great question, I don’t have much of a gag reflex either but it never occurred to me that the sound of gagging could be a turn on, I’d love to hear the guy’s answers!
August 29th, 2008 at 9:50 am
The gagging noise is one of the few things in porn that actually grosses me out. Its the only moment where I feel really badly for the girl as some stud with a 12″ ram rod slams her poor vocal chords like he’s Beethoven on the god damn piano. I probably wouldn’t mind the noise so much if it didn’t make me think they’d vomit on his cock….
August 29th, 2008 at 9:56 am
Tom, I thought it was just a Mary Poppins fetish. Good to know.
August 29th, 2008 at 9:58 am
I would like to know how to get over my gag reflex.
August 29th, 2008 at 10:18 am
MsKitty, Me too!! I can’t believe I’ve never puked on a cock before…
This is a great link, check it out
http://www.sexshop365.co.uk/catalog/articles/Boost-your-sex-life/deep_throat.html
August 29th, 2008 at 10:33 am
It’s like the old joke. What do people like in bed? Preference Preference Preference.
Alright, that was silly.
I agree with Chaoslost. To me gagging sounds are sort a prelude to throwing up. To me, Vomit = NOT Sexy. Again, that’s just me.
As for sound effects, as long as you can tell they’re enjoying it then it’s all gravy. I once fooled around with a girl who was dead silent in bed. She assured that it was just her style and she wasn’t a noise maker. I gotta say, it drove me crazy(in a negative way). It’s like watching a porn on mute, it’s like half the fun is gone. When I finally convinced myself that it’s totally okay to just relax and let go while getting intimate, I started moaning and growling during pieces of extreme excitement. I didn’t plan it and I’m not sure where it came from, but Damn, I loved it.
I guess I’m part of a video game generation. When you push a button, something is supposed to happens. When you slam fuck someone, a moan or a scream or at least your name called to heavens…would be nice. Not to mention, anamalistic grunts, screams, and growls are just hot.
p.s. I do not condone “faking it”. By faking it, I mean artificially making noises and movements to let on that this is the best sex ever when in fact…it isn’t. I think it is a silly practice that only prolongs dissatisfaction on one or both sides. Out of curiosity, does anyone else here have stories or thoughts on this practice?
August 29th, 2008 at 11:16 am
ok… TBK…. I feel the need to share this link with you and the rest… I got so excited when I started actually reading some of the stuff… I thought tantric was going to be hard or something…. http://www.whitelotuseast.com/
August 29th, 2008 at 11:18 am
I SO want to try the Lingam Massage!!!!!!!!!!
August 29th, 2008 at 11:28 am
Here are my .02 gold pieces. Honestly, I don’t really get the gag thing in porn. I mean if someone generally enjoys giving deep throat/gagging BJs then go for it. But most of the gagging I see makes me want to get violent because it just looks like to much.
The fact that blow jobs are given at all make things hot already in my opinion.
August 29th, 2008 at 12:01 pm
MissKitty, love that link, tantric is very sexy, lots and lots of foreplay, anticipation, tension, ahhh…….
as far as deepthroating, practice, practice, practice makes perfect, close your eyes and relax your throat, it’s mind over matter. TBK’s link has lots of good advice. The right kind of spit sounds funny but it’s true!
August 29th, 2008 at 12:13 pm
I printed it off as I am at work right now.But I will take it home and pour over it. Thanks for the advice!!
August 29th, 2008 at 2:55 pm
MsKitty
No Tantric Sex isn’t hard, it just takes patience and practice (so I hear).
I’ll one up you though: Sex Magick scroll down for more links.
August 29th, 2008 at 5:19 pm
Patience and practice, what a shame!!!
August 29th, 2008 at 5:28 pm
I’m against fakin’ it, because insincerity is just not sexy in my books. On the other hand, if you can manage to very, very sincerely fake it, I guess you’re golden and may even have a career on the big screen.
August 29th, 2008 at 6:12 pm
I had the wonderful experience of a lover puking on my cock. In my lap. Of her passenger seat of her car.
Note to self - never let a fellatrix eat a full dinner before she tries to swallow a massive load…
August 29th, 2008 at 6:59 pm
@TBK - {snort} Don’t worry, the picture I created in my own mind to illustrate this post was, of course, perfect.
August 29th, 2008 at 7:01 pm
“Huh. Why is my comment under moderation?” he wonders. GAH. Misspelled my own damn name. Dork.
August 29th, 2008 at 8:40 pm
Yeah, not a fan of gagging sounds. Because that sounds like vomiting and, frankly, the sound is enough to cause me to loose the contents of my stomach. And, no, that is not a turn-on.
However, if you want to slurp, growl, some appreciative moaning, and do other things down there that is cool. I’ll just be impressed if you can manage to get my member all the way down your throat.
August 30th, 2008 at 1:01 am
I happen to like the sound of gagging. I don’t know what it is about it but it drives me insane. I know when my fiance has had too much so I know when to let off and let her take control. I just like when she makes noises that are caused by me actually.
August 30th, 2008 at 1:17 am
@Tom - “zombie followers” - excuse me? The followers of this blog have proven over and over again to be intelligent, well spoken, and beautiful creatures. I’m surprised mine is the only “wrath” you’ll be reaping in response to your comment. Though the drive of the loins is strong, not a one of us either thoughtless or stupid, as connoted by your entry.
@Westley200 - faking it just perpetuates *more* bad sex, IMHO, so I agree with you.
@JSD - You still owe me a fucking Slurpee. That weird blue thing at the movie didn’t count. And yeah, you’re a dork (but I’ve done it, too).
@the post in general - I don’t like being gagged. I prefer being able to breathe, duh! Never understood this fetish and maintain nothing should be assumed. Ever.
August 30th, 2008 at 2:37 am
No gaggig! It makes me think I’m doing somethin against her will. You know, like she is only doing this because I WANT her to do it. Oh, and gagging reminds me of vomiting and that is on the opposite side of “hot” and “sexy” in my world.
Faking is always a bad idea!
August 31st, 2008 at 7:50 am
Put me down as NOT a fan of gagging or faking. Felatrix sounds I do enjoy are humming, appreciative moaning, and giggling.
September 1st, 2008 at 1:25 pm
Alright, so I know I’m completely destroying my anonymity here, but oh well. I am Spoonless. I admit it. (I do hope I’m not breaking any Ask The Slut rules..)
Slut, your answer was enlightening. It makes a lot of sense that the amount of gagging expelled would determine the size of the thruster’s member. I also agree with Bigboybear; the entire holding the nose thing is way gross and in no way a turn on for me (plus, it’s kind of cheating, isn’t it?)
Anywho, everyone who says I should ask my boyfriend is right; fortunately, I didn’t have to. So I did. He apprised me that minimal gagging is something he finds slightly hot, but there’s no need to go overboard. I responded that I would have to fake gagging since my throat’s so versatile, and he said not to bother. No big deal.
I thoroughly enjoy everyone else’s insight!
October 1st, 2008 at 10:21 pm
Gagging, if it isn’t enough to puke, can be interpreted as though the giver is so into sucking that s/he will do anything to please. But for me, it needs to be willing and not harmul. If it seems harmful it totally kills the mood. Fine line.