The Beautiful Kind

OK, I have to warn you. This BDSM clip is disturbing. At least it was for me.

1.  Oh my GOD that screaming!
2. She looks like a news anchor with a name like Tricia.
3. Nice thighs! She’s so pale against the black wall.
4. I like the cage in the corner…
5. The Dom’s shadow lurks around her…
6. Oh my goodness, she’s going wee wee.

Just so you know, my cat was lounging next to me as I watched this. I clicked play, he looked alarmed, then took off in disgust.

I asked my friend who is a BDSM expert, “Is she being a big baby, or what?” Here is what she had to say:

Let’s assume that this is indeed a clip of a “scene” shared between a couple. I say shared so to equate it to an experience which is Safe, Sane, and Consensual. There is much to consider when questioning her reaction to her beating. Is she overacting or being a baby? We have no way of knowing, but here are some physical observations and other important factors to consider.

Though we witness her flogging to be localized in her stomach and genital area, if you look further down, her legs show signs of beatings as well. I’m not sure if anyone has ever beat you with a flogger, strap, or even a hand on your legs but it stings like a bitch! It certainly produced many marks, yelps, and tears for me.

We also have not witnessed any form Domination other than physical. Meaning, we have no idea what has been said, where he has lead her emotionally or mentally. When a sub gives her or himself completely over to a Dominant, it can be so powerful, so vulnerable. I’m a strong believer in that a submissive can be completely Dominated without being touched at all. That is the beauty of D/s. Honestly it’s one of the biggest draws for me.

I once was “bound” and “blindfolded” for hours without the use of rope or a blindfold. I was told to keep by hands behind my back and my eyes closed. That is how they remained for hours until I was told otherwise. It’s a true sign of commitment and submission. Beautiful.

The idea that the body stores emotions and memories is not a new one and is generally excepted by most, ranging from massage therapist to those in the BDSM lifestyle. Whether worked out through deep massage or some intense beating, it’s not unusual for an avalanche of emotions to pour out during such a session. This is why it is so vital for a Dominant to really be aware and check in with their sub. One cannot always count on a safe word, especially if the sub is breaking down.

The great thing is that these “break downs” can be so wonderfully therapeutic. It’s a time when the Dominant can hold their sub, love and comfort them. There have been quite a few times when I broke. I was fortunate to have great people working with me, ones who knew to push my limits and how to tell when I’ve had enough so that they could comfort me as I came down.

We don’t know what’s going on inside that woman. She could be breaking down, or rather breaking through. Perhaps she’s wounded in a sense and that’s why she cries out like a wounded animal (as awful and annoying as it may sound). A sidenote to this point: I would warn anyone against getting involved in such a lifestyle if they truly are “broken” and haven’t dealt with important situations in their lives. BDSM shouldn’t be an escape. Deal with what needs to be dealt with through therapy or however else. Remember, this lifestyle should be Safe, Sane, and Consensual.