Disadvantages of Being in a Triad
Filed under: Triad - June 27, 2008 @ 6:00 am- Feeling left out and insecure at times
- Less sex (seriously, you have three moods to negotiate)
- It’s a challenge finding a bathtub for three (rub-a-dub-dub, three men in a tub my ASS)
- Social stigma
- Coinciding PMS
- Having to coordinate three schedules
- Lack of closet space
- It’s hard to find alone time if you want it
- The middle sometimes gets too hot for sleeping
- More emotional baggage to deal with
- It costs more for plane tickets and dinner
- You have two partners to catch cooties from, so a cold can linger in the house for a month
- Your single friends are jealous of you
- It’s hard to figure out whose family you’ll spend the holidays with
- There are more birthdays and events to keep in mind
- It really is more complicated
- You have less to fantasize about because your real sex life is better than most people’s fantasies
June 27th, 2008 at 6:58 am
I’m going to go ahead and say you aren’t allowed to call the last one a disadvantage.
June 27th, 2008 at 7:34 am
I have to say that most of your list is correct. But there is nothing that Rockabilly Girl and I would not do or suffer to have that love and companionship again. Considering that Love is the deciding factor, and though some may dispute it, LOVE CONQUERS ALL!
June 27th, 2008 at 7:35 am
I can definitely see the sleeping arrangement rocking in the winter and sucking in the summer.
June 27th, 2008 at 7:51 am
I WISH love conquered all… my triad would still be together. But the truth is - if someone can’t get over their shit… love doesn’t work.
Relationships in general are HARD… and TBK is right - in a triad or dyad or whatever poly configuration you find, love takes a little bit more of a back burner to communication, compromise and growing up.
Kudos to you three!
June 27th, 2008 at 6:57 pm
Yeah, real bummer about the last one…
June 27th, 2008 at 9:56 pm
Thirding the accusation that the last one doesn’t count.
June 30th, 2008 at 8:48 am
To Mon-Mon, Thank you so much for clarifying my statement. We also had what we considered the most incredible triad and because of the exact reasons that you posted: Communication, Compromise and Growing-up, and the fact that our third couldn’t get over her shit, Love failed us.
However it has yielded up a wonderful new world of friendship and love with others we may never have met. So maybe in an indirect way, Love has conquered and given us something better and stronger than before. Maybe it’s a matter of faith.
July 3rd, 2008 at 9:49 am
Some of that list would fall under the “good problem” category. Having less to fantasize about is like having too much money!
The social stigma part is stupid, but true I’m sure. Why do people have to judge all the time?
As a single guy…yea I’m a little jealous but I have enough trouble handling ONE girl so I don’t see any triads in my future.
I will add that everyone feels left out and insecure at times!