On being bi…
Filed under: Deserving - May 21, 2008 @ 1:00 pmI did not have my first bisexual experience until a few months ago, at age 25. Sure, I’ve hugged and kissed girls playfully, I’ve had bi girls crush on me, and I’ve groped more than a few breasts in my life.
At first, I felt a little weird about this. I wasn’t particularly attracted to women as a child or young adult. I had a crush on another girl in high school – she was creative and intelligent, the girl who got all of the lead roles in school plays – but she was the only one, ever. Nothing ever came of that aside from sleepovers in the same bed.
Women have often been my competitors. They competed with me for best friend status, they tried to steal my boyfriends by giving them road head, they complained when I didn’t spend enough time with them. A few years ago a friend of mine and I roomed together, and we would get into territorial spats over things like whose coffee table belonged in the living room. To be perfectly honest, I don’t get along with women. When Beautiful came along, I could count all of my female friends on less than one hand – even when I added my femmy-lesbian-ex-boyfriend.
So when Beautiful came along and I became a lovesick little pup, I wondered: am I really bi? Why did I not develop an attraction to women until well after all of my neurons completed development?
I was happy to read in the book The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton that 50% of women have their first bisexual experience after age 25. Looks like I am right on schedule. Whew.
-Belle
May 21st, 2008 at 2:45 pm
Belle says: “To be perfectly honest, I don’t get along with women.”
Every woman I have ever known has said this to me at some point, and every one thought they were somehow the exception while all other women were BFFs.
Ladies, you are ALL bonkers! It’s amazing our species survives at all.
If men walked around all the time saying/thinking “I don’t get along with other men” you’d think we were pathetic. And we would be.
Just a thought. Not sure that I have a point to make here.
May 21st, 2008 at 4:03 pm
i have a hard time with females too. i grew up with guys and i’ve always just felt more comfortable around them. right around those middle school/high school years i found i had nothing to say to them and they nothing to me. we were from two different planets. i know what you mean.
May 21st, 2008 at 5:04 pm
RIGHT ON justsomedude ! ! ! ! !
way to say it like it is……..!!!!!!!!
May 21st, 2008 at 5:49 pm
Yes, we are indeed bonkers. We’re just as crazy as everyone else
Have you been to CraigsList lately? I was bored and browsing the personal ads women had up the other day and there were countless numbers of women pleading for “a group of awesome gals like Sex in the City to hang out with me”
May 21st, 2008 at 9:06 pm
“Road head” is an awesome term. Thanks for clearing up how I spent my high school years, Belle.
May 21st, 2008 at 9:34 pm
Me too Sunday…me too…oh what sweet reverie…
May 21st, 2008 at 10:36 pm
Girls can be very hard to get along with. Plus it doesn’t help that everyone’s being all unique all the time. Why do we have to be special snowflakes?…
May 21st, 2008 at 10:59 pm
It’s true… women are evil to each other. It sucks when you want/lust/dream about being with a woman… then find out she’s this evil skank who is only concerned with her own happiness.
I wish we women could get past that… whatever it is that makes us instant a-holes to each other. I think it’s all men’s fault.
Yeah that’s it - it’s all you men’s fault!
Wait… I like penis too. Curses - I am doomed!
May 22nd, 2008 at 5:39 pm
whew, looks like I’m normal after all Belle!
I’m in your boat, mostly. and I’m also rubbish at talking to women, for the fear of rejection that I can only imagine is just like that of most men. :sigh:
May 24th, 2008 at 2:23 pm
So…
If men think women are incomprehensible…
and women think women are impossible…
Will you beautiful, wonderful creatures *PLEASE* finally just admit that you are all completely batshit insane? Each in your own maddening way, of course. Unique snowflakes of random lunacy.
And Mon-Mon, men didn’t do this to you. You’re doing it to yourselves and to each other, and torturing us simple menfolk who just want to worship you and fuck your lights out once in a while - without any unnecessary drama. “…then find out she’s this evil skank who is only concerned with her own happiness.” Isn’t that what we’re all concerned with? By that measure, aren’t you an evil skank, too? Isn’t that okay?
May 26th, 2008 at 11:04 pm
I’m batshit insane.
June 1st, 2008 at 9:39 am
Belle jokes that she is a “bi savant” - even with zero experience with a woman she was a natural at removing a bra and getting me off from the get go!