The Beau Has a Girlfriend
Filed under: Triad - March 24, 2008 @ 6:00 am
Remember that post I did a while back announcing that I had a girlfriend? Well, now The Belle is officially The Beau’s girlfriend as well. We’re all dating each other equally. TBK3.
This means that now he can come in and check on us while we’re bathing together and he’s cooking us dinner.
It means we can all kiss. It means I can be dommed by two people at once even more than before. It means that countless fantasies we have all had can become a reality.
It also means I’m going to need to learn how to share even better, because they will be doing things without me. I’ve been intimate with each of them separately, and now they will have a chance to be intimate together, to close the triangle. And of course there will be plenty of opportunities for us to all be intimate together.
Welcome to a new chapter in my life: I’ve had loads of threesomes and casual sex and have dabbled in polyamory, swinging and more, but this is my first actual triad. I feel like a kid in a candy store. No, I feel like Charlie in the Chocolate Factory. I’m overwhelmed with wonder. I’m excited and scared.
March 24th, 2008 at 7:25 am
Wow and congratulations! Not wishing to pry (feel free to not tell me squat), but did Belle break it off with her boyfriend, or did thing just change internally with you three?
I hope this works out and look forward to some stories.
March 24th, 2008 at 7:28 am
Way to go Beau! Put the spurs to her buddy! Now the Belle and TBK can both chase the Beau around wearing strap ons!
March 24th, 2008 at 7:29 am
I’m excited for you. Speaking from experience, triads DO work, so have fun, ENJOY!!!!
March 24th, 2008 at 7:34 am
Hey it’s an open book around here - this blog is a window into our very personal lives, and it’s good to get a complete picture in order to better understand things. I strive to present the good, the bad, and the ugly and not just paint a rosy picture highlighting only the good stuff.
She did break it off with her boyfriend, and right now we are a closed triad. We are “duogamous,” to steal a line from this excellent interview with another triad:
http://www.gay.com/news/roundups/package.html?coll=news_feature&sernum=1258&navpath=/channels/health/mental/&page=1
March 24th, 2008 at 8:12 am
dont you mean Beau has 2 girlfriends? lucky bastard!!!
March 24th, 2008 at 9:32 am
I was just reminded: on a Brazilian soap opera my wife watches (a prime time show), there is a happy MMF triad with child. There is a crazy religious woman trying to incite the community to drive them out, but so far the triad is doing well enough for the culture in which it exists.
March 24th, 2008 at 11:18 am
The best of luck to you! You’re doing something I don’t ever think I could emotionally handle. Congrats!
March 24th, 2008 at 2:16 pm
My boyfriend was in one of these during the fall for about a month. They broke it off though, because he found that he was always getting his two girlies off and they never did anything for him. He’s much happier now, because instead of having TWO mediocre girlfriends, he has ONE fantastic one that gives him blowjobs. (purell or not)
Your arrangement will work perfectly though!!
March 24th, 2008 at 3:27 pm
I wonder if the Belles ex will be so willing to let any future girlfriends hook up with couples, you almost had to see this coming.
March 24th, 2008 at 5:32 pm
Why do so many of your posts seem to feature me cooking dinner lately?
Ditto to your last four sentences! …Except the “scared” part …
March 24th, 2008 at 6:18 pm
Maybe she would’ve left the ex anyway.. I can’t seriously see the triad formation being blamed for the breakup…
March 24th, 2008 at 6:30 pm
Beau, a man in the kitchen is just hot ;-). Beautiful, is The Belle moving in?
March 24th, 2008 at 6:45 pm
That is great news! I’m quite fascinated by triads and the dynamics involved. Your blog is like having a personal reality show except the people in it aren’t annoying.
March 24th, 2008 at 7:48 pm
You’re a much braver woman than me. I have such low self-esteen that I’d be afraid that the guy would prefer the other woman over me. Seems to work for you guys, though. Which is great. Don’t get me wrong, I totally support your choices.
March 24th, 2008 at 9:03 pm
I agree with some of the other comments about what happened to the loving supporting super cool long term partner? Did he get kicked out of the bathtub/ocean? That could be some ‘bad and ugly’
I’m hoping the incredible belle will return female dominance into your surprisingly typical male dominated y-chromosome centered menage
Buona Fortuna
March 24th, 2008 at 11:19 pm
congratulations…you sound very excited…hope things continue to go well for all three of you…does this mean that belle will be contributing to the posts as well?
cg
March 25th, 2008 at 8:02 am
The reasons why I left my former partner cannot be adequately explained in the short space allocated for comments.
For years with him I felt emptiness. It was as if I were going through the motions of living without really being alive. I could feel happy around him, but not connected. I kept shallow relationships with friends and family, because I knew if I connected well with someone, it would make me realize just how desolate my relationship had become. I was hiding in a cave inside my head.
Then I met TBK². Something inside of me snapped and I just let go. I let all of the feelings I had tried so desperately to suppress smack me in the face. I told TBK² things I had never told anyone else about my relationship with my partner. I verbally acknowledged my feelings of empty, lonely depression I had felt for years.
My former partner was, and is, a super cool loving and supporting person. I wanted to grow closer with him and instead we grew apart. I agonized over my decision and I grieve the loss of the life we had.
Love is like an ocean, and I certainly love him. It kills me to hurt him, but at this point in my life, I don’t belong with him.
March 25th, 2008 at 11:26 am
Damn, your good
March 25th, 2008 at 8:35 pm
Don’t forget “beautiful”. You’re excited and scared and beautiful.
March 26th, 2008 at 1:20 pm
cg - YES The Belle will have her own blog soon! Just need to get that set up, hopefully next month. And once it’s up and running, she’s going to steal my thunder!
March 26th, 2008 at 10:55 pm
Belle,
Don’t be afraid.