Why Gay People Are Perverted Mental Cases
Filed under: Eros - March 16, 2008 @ 7:26 am
The other day I went to a lecture at Washington University for healthcare professionals on how to interact and understand patients who are GLBT (gay, lesbian, bi, transgendered - and yes, I think of BLT sandwiches every time I hear the term.)
Here are the notes I took that I think are worth sharing:
- GLBT folks are the only group who learn to hate the group they belong to before they realize they are part of that group. No wonder so many gay people have low self-esteem.
- GLBT folks are raised without a good support system. A black kid grows up in a black family, so any racism they encounter gets dealt with in a supportive way; their parents are aware of these issues, and are ready to talk about them. Gay kids are certainly not raised by gay parents, don’t understand the feelings he or she may be having, and are steered towards heterosexual interests, which leads to nothing but frustration and feeling alienated.
- GLBT folks are hypersexualized because they are exposed to sex at such a young age. What do I mean by that? Well, if a gay boy is sent to summer camp, he’s showering with all these other boys and seeing all their naked bodies and getting turned on. I mean, if you’re a straight man, imagine if you had to shower with a bunch of girls - would you be unfazed?
As for me, I’d have girl sleepovers and didn’t realize we were supposed to just watch movies and paint each other’s nails. I thought it was a fabulous trick we were pulling on our parents - they had no idea they were hosting lesbian trysts and that we stayed up half the night humping each other.
March 16th, 2008 at 10:48 am
I had some sexy sleepovers too, but we had, um, parallel play where we got ourselves off at the same time. I’m still a bi-virgin.
March 16th, 2008 at 4:13 pm
very thoughtful post, TBK…i know a couple with a little girl who came home one day (she is four)and said that she told another little girl at school that when she grows up she wants to marry that little girl…this is all very normal, of course, but the teacher told her that girls marry boys and boys marry girls…when the little girl asked why the teacher said, well, it just is…when she told her parents, her father said “when you grow up, you can marry whoever you want to as long as you love them and they love you…boy, girl, it doesnt matter”…kinda interesting, huh?
cg
March 16th, 2008 at 8:14 pm
i’m all for curiousgirl’s post. i’m bisexual but have never really explored my bi side. however, my hubby and i are finally talking about having a baby and i don’t care if he / she is hetero, / homo / or bi. and those are “normal” but horrible categories by the way. i encourage sexuality in all its form.
i can remember being about 9 or 10 and my little girl friend in the the neighborhood wanting to take pictures. she had a bathing suit on under her shorts and i had on carebear underwear. i saw nothing wrong with it but my parents did. this is the same girl i humped pillows with while we were young.
i will always wonder what happended to her.
March 17th, 2008 at 6:33 am
It’s certainly been my experience that gay people have low self esteem but Im not so sure about the hyper sexual part though. I have notice that gay men are much more forward than women in flirting, they are guys after all! Most of the gay people I’ve known have been in monogamous relationships. It is really sad in this day in age that two old queens who’ve lived together for years cant get married.
March 17th, 2008 at 8:41 am
I don’t think I’ve met many gay people who are hyper-sexual. I think straightish people are more obsessed with sex, actually!
March 17th, 2008 at 9:24 am
Same here Manj, the only people I’ve known who were consistently hyper sexual have been those who were molested as children. That can happen to anyone gay or straight, perhaps someone molested by the same sex could grow up to be gay when they otherwise would not have. Im no expert but I know what I’ve experienced in real life.
March 19th, 2008 at 4:18 pm
Hm, I think a lot of gay men are hypersexual. It seems like they’re always on the prowl looking to hook up at bars, bath houses, parks, giving each other the eye on the street… don’t tell me that’s just in my fantasies.
March 25th, 2008 at 11:46 am
Very interesting post honestly. But I confess to a curiosity about your sleepovers. Oh the stuff that erotica is made off