Ask The Slut: How Do We Get Into Swinging?
Filed under: Ask The Slut - January 31, 2008 @ 7:25 am
Dear Slut,
My husband and I have only been with each other since we met as teens and are hoping to maximize our sensual needs with each other. We are first timers wanting to swing, where are the best places to meet a possible couple? And, how does the swinging process work? We have experimented with a threesome before because I wanted to be with another woman, but I am curious, since our safe couple fell thru, what is it like to have sex with a complete stranger.
Thanks ~Complete Joy~ (St. Louis)
PS: You are a sexy cunt.
Dear Joy,
I have to admit, having sex with a total stranger is a rush. The good news is, swinging is all around you. Someone posted a comment on my myspace page just yesterday: “Swingers Party at SpyBar in O’Fallon mo tonight” and I know for a fact there is a daytime gang bang going on in West County today. Swingers often get together at the trashy Dorsett Inn. My guy and I are 90% sure that our next door neighbors are swingers. (Hint: Around here, a good clue to know if someone is a swinger is if they frequent the Lake of the Ozarks in the summer. Party Cove, baby.)
In other words, there is a wealth of action to choose from out there, from invite-only orgies in private homes to hotel takeovers by a huge hedonistic group. Take a look on myspace, do a Google search for “swinger St. Louis lifestyle” - bam, there you go. The three biggest swing sites you can join are SwingLifeStyle, Swappernet, and Lifestyle Lounge. LL is the best of the bunch, better quality people on there, but it’s pricier.
Most swingers like to get to know each other by exchanging a few messages online and then going on a double date. If you’re really into hooking up with a stranger, mention that fantasy on your swinger profile or post an ad on Craigslist, man that place is teeming with kinky fuckers who can indulge your every fetish. For swinger newbies, check out this great site put out by CoupleDoingIt. The video is a great fun intro to swinging (there are a couple parts of it I don’t like, but overall it is spot on.) Happy hunting!
Feelin’ frisky but don’t know what to do with it? Drop me a line at love [at] thebeautifulkind . com
January 31st, 2008 at 8:03 am
I wish you luck, when I was younger (early 20s, now 35) I experimented with the lifestyle a bit. I participated in a gangbang and met a few couples. As a single guy it was a little weird, it seemed that most of the couples looking for guys had either a husband with gay tendencies (which werent mentioned until meeting), or the husband was old, fat, had a tiny dick, or all three (mostly all three!) For me the reality just never lived up to the fantasy, later I begrudgingly came to the conclusion that Im a one woman man. I can almost here the collective yawn! Anywho, I wish you luck and hope you fair better than I did.
January 31st, 2008 at 9:44 am
There’s a yahoo group called StlAdultConnection that skews younger. they mostly meet at The Hideout in Granite City. Swinger friendly barstaff.
There’s also Club 64 and PT’s Centerville on the east side, they have swinger nights.
January 31st, 2008 at 9:45 am
Oooooooh crap. TBK the other night we were discussing the possibility of my parents being swingers and they LOVE the Ozarks Party Cove! ::gulp::
January 31st, 2008 at 5:57 pm
Thanks for all the great info!!! We keep looking on Craigs List, but want to find a comparable couple, we will probibly post our own add soon. I will check on the PTs, I was just there the other night and had no idea that they also did swingers nights, perfect. The only part that worries me is being dissapointed, my husband is gifted in every aspect of sexual fun, it hopefully wont be dissapointing, but either way I get to have the best everyday. Thanks TBK for the helpful info I guess I owe you one, or two
February 2nd, 2008 at 9:55 am
We’ve been swinging for a few months now, but are in the UK. I would urge you to go for it, you won’t regret it!