Begging For Orgasms?
Filed under: Eros - January 8, 2008 @ 6:40 pm
OK, this is weird and embarrassing.
The other night we were in bed fooling around, and I asked my beau to pass me the vibrator so I could get off while he worshiped on me the way I like so much. My GOD an orgasm is so much better when you’ve got someone kissing and holding you.
He went to reach for it, but then stopped and said, “I don’t think I’m going to give it to you until you beg.”
Huh?
“Um, please?”
“That’s not good enough,” he shook his head. “You have to sound like you really mean it.”
Grrr. “Oh come on. Pretty please? I really want to get off. Badly.”
“You’re not being convincing at all! Maybe if you get on your knees in front of me it’ll put you in the right frame of mind,” he suggested.
So he stood up and I knelt in front of him naked, but I just couldn’t pull it off. Dammit! I’m a lousy beggar.
Grumpy and cold, I crawled back into bed. He said, “Well maybe you’ll do better tomorrow.”
GRRR! I fumed a bit, then went to bed without my orgasm.
I woke the next day feeling peeved. I was embarrassed about it, annoyed with him, and disappointed in myself for not being able to beg properly. Was I a sucky sub? Was I not in the right mood? Was begging just not my thing?
I did my research, and found this site. It said:
The physical act of begging can be a sexual turn on for people. Seeing the submissive in an obviously submissive pose, pleading with the dominant, can cause significant sexual arousal in both parties. Kneeling is the most common submissive pose, and just seeing a person in that position can arouse a dominant.
Aw geez, how come I didn’t feel turned on? How come I felt awkward? I mean, it’s right along the lines of some of the other stuff we’ve been experimenting with.
Later on, I got off by myself, which felt like an angry little sneeze. I’ve been wanting to reconnect ever since, but things have been too crazy for some proper lovin’. At least we tabled the begging until later.
January 8th, 2008 at 10:38 pm
I wonder what’s your life outside the bed, like, in the kitchen.
January 9th, 2008 at 7:50 am
Strahil, that is a VERY personal question - how dare you ask such a thing! Ha ha, just kidding.
Well, we eat pancakes in the kitchen. And we both cook, and I do most of the cleaning.
I have a feeling he wishes I was MORE SUB out of the bedroom.
January 11th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Damn, I was trying to think of an appropriate pseudonym so you’d know who this is, but I can’t. I guess you can tell by the email though.
I think I could do the begging, although I’ve never been asked to do it to that extent, but a similar thing came up for me this week, although not as serious.
I can’t say “master.”
I was good through standing facing the wall (which I’d never done before) for “getting in trouble”, being spanked, etc, but afterward, my guy asks me to say it, teasingly, and I couldn’t, even in fun. And I have no idea why. It doesn’t seem like a big deal, but I just don’t want to…?
January 14th, 2008 at 1:24 pm
I am not sure that I could say “Master” either. For some reason it makes me think of the slavery of the blacks in the pre-civil war days and turns me off. *shrug*