Fetish Imprinting
Filed under: Eros - December 26, 2007 @ 7:00 amNow that I’ve started up my Fetish Parade regular feature, I’m even more obsessed with fetishes. I’m fascinated by the process of how someone develops their fetish. Personally, I don’t have a main one that stands out - my turn ons are as assorted as a box of chocolates - rape, incest, beasts. I can’t really specify trigger points for when I got into these things. I mean, I have been raped and molested in my past, but those experiences were creepy and negative and I don’t think about them at all when I fantasize. I do remember the first time I felt sexual urges - it was towards women, looking at my friend’s older brother’s Playboys in the basement of their house. I was 8, and I thought women were FUCKING HOT.
My guy is primarily a breast man. He remembers the first time his sexual light switch turned on. He was sitting in class in 5th grade, and all of a sudden he noticed the girl in front of him. More specifically, he noticed the outline of her bra straps under her shirt. BOING!!! He was hard for a week after that, and went around noticing all other SOB (Signs of Bra) wherever he went. Nowadays, his favorite look on a woman is a bra and jeans. And he notices if someone is going braless before I do.
I have another friend who has a thing for pantyhose. He loves for his wife to cut the crotch out so he can fuck her with them on, and he even likes for her to get in the tub with him wearing them - he likes how they feel wet. I asked him how he got interested in hosiery, and he had an answer for me right away. He said one time he was six, and at church, and was sitting on the floor between pews, and all these women were sitting around him. He was surrounded by a sea of pantyhose, and he reached up to touch a leg. He loved the way the pantyhose felt, and rubbing her leg kept him quiet. She looked down and smiled at him.
I can only hope that I have triggered future fetishes myself. For instance, one time I was roasting veggie dogs at a campfire, and no one was around, so I crouched in my short skirt and knee socks. A 9 year old boy came over and squatted on the other side of the fire, and I chatted with him. Then I realized he could probably see right up my skirt. I was wearing polka dot panties (this pair, in fact.) I contemplated moving positions, but decided, eh, let him peep. So now I’ll bet he’s going to grow up and have a thing for flaming polka dots. HA
My questions to you are: do you think it’s mostly men who have an imprinting fetish moment, or do you think women are just as susceptible to such a thing? Have you had a fetish “aha” moment?
December 26th, 2007 at 11:27 am
I have a thing for wet panties too, but without the crotch hole
I love it when the woman’s “camel toe” is wet and the panty is stuck in it, it’s so provocative and hot!
I think everybody has fetish moments, more or less. Some people are just too ashamed of talking about it and in time may even supress it, which is very sad…
December 26th, 2007 at 12:18 pm
I think my rape fetish is a result of my parents movie viewing habits when I was a kid. They would invite friends over for movie nights and send my sister and I off to bed, but from the end of our hallway you had a perfect view of the television so my sister and I would sneak out of bed and lie in the hallway watching whatever movies they had rented. These were usually blood and guts horror flicks, giallo and exploitation type films.
I specifically remember the night they rented “I Spit On Your Grave”…here was this girl getting beaten and raped in a variety of ways, but I was incredibly intrigued by it and started getting these tingly feelings. It was a huge turn on and I still masturbate to that flick occasionally.
The pubic hair in those movies created a bit of a fetish for me also. The term “hairy pussy” is usually a part of any internet porn search. Given the bush look isn’t all that attractive, but I’m ten times more turned on by some pubic hair than the totally shaved and smooth look.
December 27th, 2007 at 12:04 am
I think everyone has some sort of a fetish, whether they are a man or a woman. I think it can take some people a very long time to really find that fetish. Those that find it fast are very lucky.
December 27th, 2007 at 2:43 am
I can’t resist a woman in a corset. This one started in early high school playing one of the Mortal Kombats. There were three characters who wore these strained corsets and I’ve been hooked, eyed and knotted ever since. I may well prefer a classy, sexy corset over actual nudity. Yeah… that’s definitely likely.
December 27th, 2007 at 9:55 am
Alex, I agree that the fetish can be sexier than nudity. I am always disappointed when I’m watching porn and they immediately take off all the woman’s clothes. Once she’s naked, the drama is gone and it’s just fucking.
To any porn directors (and writers?): For the sake of all that is Good, PLEASE leave the fucking bra on her for a little while at least.
December 30th, 2007 at 10:39 am
As a child we played a game called Sardines. It is sort of Jewish of hide and seek. One person hides and the others find them. When you find the hiding person you join them until only one searcher remains and they are it (the hider for the next round). Well, more often than not the hiding place becomes very cramped and is a good place to make a rub or feel. During one of these games when I was probably 9 or 10 one of my older step-sister’s (14 or 15) friend found me first and snuggled right up against me. Well, even then I was quite capable of erections and we spent the next ten minutes or so with her gently rubbing against me. My god. I wanted to play that game all the time after that. I still love the feel of sliding up and down on a woman while still in my clothes (dry humping we used to call it but I always ended up not so dry!). One of my girlfriends loved to do the same to me. Riding my leg until sweet release.
As for fantasies, well, I used to be a big fan of the schoolgirl type stories but my interests have shifted slightly. I still like schoolgirl (or boy) stories but where the younger person is the one with more sexual experience and confidence and actually seduces the older person. Teacher seduced and dominated!
December 30th, 2007 at 11:53 am
Dear JewITC,
Your post reminded me of an erotica page I saw a while back. I think it was this one: http://www.asstr.org/~wraith/
Enjoy!
December 30th, 2007 at 6:12 pm
I think I found my fetish: http://veryfunnyads.com/index.html?id=25629
January 8th, 2008 at 1:30 pm
Ever since I had a hippychick girlfriend, I have a serious thing for hairy bushes. Shaved or trimmed are fine, but a fluffy bit of hair gets me wet.
January 17th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
I really cannot begin on where my fetishes start, there are so many, embarrased girls, blushing, panties, corsets, lingerie in general, watersports mostly just like watching though, rape, incest, waxing, play piercing, cutting, bleeding, blood, the taste of blood, going down on a chick, pleasing her, getting her off, being dom, being sub, bondage, and honestly i dont know where most of them came from, alot are control or dominance based… i like humiliating a person, because i never had the power earlier, but as a child every aspect almost was controlled, and i’ve grown to really like it. so either way i love it all