Reader’s Choice: Should I Get An Abortion?
Filed under: Vexed - December 5, 2007 @ 5:23 am
Remember that hot threesome date we had back in October? Well sure enough, my guy, as the folks in nasty rape erotica so charmingly put it, “fucked a baby up inside of me.” (Just think, had my girlfriend been sluttier, she might have been impregnated with his bastard child!)
Naturally this comes as a complete shock to me. True, I went off the pill a couple months ago, but the last time I got knocked up was eight years ago and even though I was in my reproductive prime, I had to try for a year and a half and took fertility drugs (believe it or not, I became obsessed with having a baby). I thought I had bum ovaries. We had spermicide, but it wasn’t with us, and we got caught up in the heat of the moment…well, you know the story, you were practically there.
My cute little tummy is under attack! And being pregnant means no beer! Speaking of, I’ve had plenty to drink lately and I haven’t been taking my vitamins (I haven’t smoked any crack, though). Also, my guy and I haven’t even known each other a full year yet. Yeah we’re in love, but it’d be nice to know each other longer before taking on something of this magnitude.
Here, have some visuals.
Since everyone has an opinion on this matter, I thought I’d leave it up to you guys - should I get an abortion? A while back I posted lists of the pros and cons of breeding on my Kiddo blog - I’ll have to go review that again. I’ll leave the comments section open for one week on this post, and whatever gets the most votes goes. Meanwhile, I’m going to kick back and eat cucumbers and peanut butter. And oh yeah, I should probably tell my guy about his Power Sperm. Wait, he reads the blog, I’ll let him find out this way along with all you guys. He’ll love the surprise I’m sure.
December 5th, 2007 at 5:28 am
Just kidding. About that very last part anyway.
December 5th, 2007 at 5:58 am
If the cool guy of Yours agrees… keep the kiddo.
Reason #1: The world reeeeeeeally needs more cool people like You.
Reason #2: I don’t know the father of Your daughter, but with this guy there might be a chance of an even higher IQ. And 133 is pretty bright already.
And I apologize for this, but You’re thirty-something now. If You want to have another baby, this is the best time. You’d have to wait for sometime to try to have a baby after an abortion.
I’m not the religious kind of guy. But I think that babies do not happen accidentally. If it’s not time to have a kid, or one of the two people involved does not really want a kid, they can try as hard as they can, but the girl doesn’t get pregnant so easy.
And by the way. If You keep the baby we get some info on topics like “pregnancy & sex”, “sex after pregnancy” etc.
December 5th, 2007 at 6:02 am
Just forgot… Pregnancy is sexy!
December 5th, 2007 at 7:34 am
First of all, it’s not a baby yet
As House says, it’s more like a virus at this moment. But keeping this away…
I agree on one thing with David - if you want another child then this is it. You have what seems to be a devoted guy by your side, so you won’t get abandoned (hope so). Also, your daughter will be very happy with a kid to take care of. But this hides a risk - something called… I forgot what, but the point is - when a kid is older than 7 years, then it feels like it’s the only kid in the house. If you have another kid now, your daughter won’t feel the same way to it as she would if this happened some years ago. I’m not talking about a threat here, just the connection won’t be the same.
The only reason you need is look into perspective - look what your situation will be in one year, then in two years, five, ten, etc. You know what being pregnant feels like and you know what being a mother of a baby feels like. There are a lot of catches and you need to remember them all and measure the situation.
Also, your career. Beyond this point, if you have a baby, then it’ll be even harder for you to develop your skills. On the other hand, you’ll have time to write - that’s your dream, isn’t it? But even further, you don’t need a baby to start doing this and you definetly don’t need the baby as an excuse for anything.
Think about the time you would devote to this child. Think about where will you get that time from. You can’t expect somebody else to replace you in this.
How about money? Will you be able to support both of your children on your own? Will your guy be able to support the three of you from his income?
Is your guy’s place big enough for four people?
Will you be able to support your children’s education? After all, that’s the most important thing, right?
Anyway, something to think about…
December 5th, 2007 at 9:50 am
Not to project any vanity on to you, but I know several women who would kill you for even considering squandering that magnificent post-baby thirty-something figure on the whim of accident.
Perhaps more importantly, you’re a dedicated kinkster, and while I can’t speak for your fella, my wife’s pregnancy pretty much squashed my inclination to brutalize her in bed. She looked so pretty and baby-nurturing with her big bump that it took all the joy out of tying her to the railing on the back porch, whipping her purple and leaving her out in the rain to “think about what you’ve done, you filthy whore.”
And if you can’t hit your woman with a belt when she catches her teeth on the tip of your cock, what point is there in living?
Well, aside from bringing up an adorable baby. Babies really are fabulous, even if they create some fairly awkward moments for the truly perverse. I used to think all I needed was a stiletto heel grinding into my weight-stretched balls to be happy, but parenthood really has increased my bliss exponentially.
Damn, tough choice. Good luck deciding!
December 5th, 2007 at 10:10 am
if i were you… i’d slit my frickin’ wrists.
December 5th, 2007 at 2:32 pm
Well, I must say, I do feel somewhat responsible. And I even had condoms in the apartment…
If it had been me (and I had been sluttier, and ovulating at the exact moment) I am 99% sure I would keep it. But you already have a daughter, you aren’t at a point where you want to have another child right now…it would probably be exorbitant- I would check with your health care provider and see if pregnancies are even covered. If you had to pay out of pocket you would probably have to spend at least 20K on it. That’s my uninformed estimate…but I bet I’m not far off. I know sonograms alone are around $500.
(To some of the other responses: Women get pregnant all the time when they don’t fully want to. Unfortunately pure will is not an effective birth control. Also a woman could get pregnant right after an abortion. Oh, and I think an abortion is preferable to suicide).
p.s. What an awesome pic of you with-child!!! I’m sure a vegetarian goddess like yourself could bounce back to the second pic in no time if you should decide to let the embryo live :OO)
December 5th, 2007 at 2:38 pm
p.p.s. If you don’t keep it, maybe you guys should stick to anal from now on?
December 5th, 2007 at 2:44 pm
Tough choice!
I’m inclined to say no, but then again I’m 24. But then, I wouldn’t get a tattoo on a whim either, so having a child sounds like a bad idea to me.
December 5th, 2007 at 4:08 pm
Well. I didn’t mean effective birth control. And it isn’t will but more the subconscious. So pure will isn’t really gonna help. (I had a chat with a psychologist once about the topic)
Another thing.
Back than, when I was in high school (I went to one of the constantly top5 ranking one in my country - no, not living in the US), of course, once we were talking about the human reproductive system. We all were about 17 and 18 Years old, so it wasn’t (all) about sex. The bio teacher gave us a list of conditions which had to be met in order to get pregnant. After listening to that, one of my even brighter classmates - who is an M.D. by now - asked: Isn’t it really big luck then if anyone got pregnant on purpose, and not the other way around? And actually it is. Maybe people have too much luck (:
Should You feel Yourself lucky? That’s up to You.
Others have covered topics such as “money”, “career”, “sisterhood” etc. I will not go into them, mostly because things work a bit different here in Europe (no, not sisterhood).
December 5th, 2007 at 6:50 pm
Nope, no babies now. Wait til I’m ready to get pregnant, too, so we can have
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0811840549/bookstorenow57-20
and arrange our children’s marriage.
December 5th, 2007 at 7:33 pm
I vote that you should keep it. I’ve terminated two pregnancies and it’s always weighed heavily on me. Not that I am sorry I did it, but it’s something I will never forget. It sounds like you have a great man and from what I remember you saying, he wanted a kid. I say go for it. Worst case scenario you guys will break up and you’ll have two baby daddies
December 5th, 2007 at 7:41 pm
I gotta say that you and your guy should decide if now is the right time for the two of you to have a baby. I’m sure he could knock you up again if he can just keep from cuming on your face for awhile. Kids are expensive, and it sounds like you are doing a pretty damn good job with the one you have. Why not run with that one, spoil her and maybe next year or the year after you and your guy will want to make one on purpose together. And it sounds like he is just really starting to warm up to your kink level, seems like a shame to possibly slow him down just when he’s getting out of third gear (insert “stick” joke here).
My vote (which should count for nothing, it’s your body and your (plural for you ,him, her and it) life, don’t let the jury of the message board influence you too much) is to let it go and revisit the issue as a conscious decision. I know you love “fate” but it doesn’t mean you cannot forge your own.
December 5th, 2007 at 8:01 pm
I can’t recommend abortion, obviously, but if you really aren’t ready to bring up another human being, adoption is always an option. A lot of adopting parents come to the child’s birth; sometimes with popcorn, I’m told. And hey, who doesn’t love popcorn? After all, there are plenty of women with bum ovaries out there, plus you’ll have the comfort of knowing your child won’t be one of those adopted kids who wonders what their parents were like cause… “Oh hey, look, a three-perspective blog post about my conception! That’ll be perfect for show-and-tell!”
December 5th, 2007 at 8:36 pm
OMG… pregnant women are so hot! And you and pregnancy?!?!
Of course, I have no intention of ever, EVER having children… so I would not have it. And I would make damn sure I used any or even EVERY type of protection to avoid getting pregnant (which is what I do now - even to the extent of falling in love with a fixed guy!)
December 5th, 2007 at 8:37 pm
I won’t bore you with my beliefs, or moral position, - but I say “No!” to abortion. Give the kid a chance!
December 5th, 2007 at 9:59 pm
I have to disagree with Alex - watching/knowing your child growing up in another family is constant pain. The parent will always wonder “can’t I do this, or that, why did I gave up on it”… No, adoption is not an option if you ask me.
December 5th, 2007 at 11:13 pm
I’d noticed that you were growing, but I just thought you’d gotten complacent. Hmmm…
December 6th, 2007 at 12:13 am
Wow, you really did it (posted this blog–not got yourself knocked up). I’m glad to see that most of your friends have a sense of humor about the whole thing (except that douche bag rg, whose words I think I saw on a pickup truck earlier today). Here’s my advice: if you aren’t feelin’ it, don’t have it. Drink some beer, smoke some crack. Take some time to get to know your man–he could be a serial killer you know. Stop fucking around and post something REALLY scandalous next time.
December 6th, 2007 at 12:13 am
One more thing:
Even if it hurts a little down the line (physically and emotionally), please god, when you drive by those little fuckers that stand outside the clinic with their kids and their signs, and their squishy little bags full of ketchup, laugh really hard and act like you’re having a great time. It really pisses them off.
December 6th, 2007 at 1:19 am
GinaB: Do You think there are so many Dexters out there? (:
December 6th, 2007 at 5:14 am
Betcha wish you fucked me instead - I’m v-safe, baby
(vasecotmy)
December 6th, 2007 at 5:34 am
GinaB: that was hilarious “give the kid a chance!”
LOL
December 6th, 2007 at 7:49 am
Until there are laws pertaining to a man’s reproductive rights/decisions equally we have no place making laws pertaining to a woman’s reproductive rights/decisions.
With that said, I support TBK in whatever she decides. Her body, her life, and her happiness are what will be impacted most. No one responding to this post, including me, will have to deal with the consequences of her decision - whatever it may be in the end - and so we have no place to judge and no right to make decisions for her in this situation (or any other).
I have known multiple women now to get abortions and their life was not worse off for it. I also know, though, that I personally do not have the emotional strength that is necessary for an abortion. Thus, I will not likely make the choice to have an abortion if ever an unexpected pregnancy occurs. TBK has the emotional strength, though, and if she decides to do it, I will be there in any way I can to support and love on her following it (or during it, if she asks).
There’s my two cents for ya.
December 6th, 2007 at 8:38 am
I hate children. I’ll supply the coat hangar.
December 6th, 2007 at 9:40 am
It doesn’t matter what your fan club thinks, it’s what the two (or three) of you think. Trouble is (from my experience) that when you’re expecting, you want to make the best of it - so you work on feeling happy about the accident. If you initially felt “oh shit” and not “wow, cool”, don’t be fooled by your defense mechanism. You have a lovely, loved kid already, so the last chance reasoning doesn’t apply. Luv ya.
December 6th, 2007 at 9:54 am
Wow, it seems it was ‘fucking amazing’. Perhaps that clump of cells is another kind of beautiful worthy of the same consideration you would extend to veal. Free choice can be a real bitch. Follow your heart. Peace and good luck in any decision you make.
December 6th, 2007 at 11:45 am
Abortion is the only way to go, kids are a drain on your life.
December 6th, 2007 at 11:47 am
You should get an abortion. How could you possibly think it’d be a good idea to have your genes still around in the pool? I mean look at yourself. You’re not exactly a prime representative of the human species. Just live your life, have fun, but do humanity a favor and do not procreate. Stick a coathanger in your vagoo.
Best Regards
-David
December 6th, 2007 at 11:51 am
get abort and keep the fetus
make it do a barrel roll
use fetus as anal dildo
take pics
December 6th, 2007 at 11:53 am
1. Have kid
2. cam whore kid
3. ???????
4. profit
December 6th, 2007 at 12:23 pm
Having mobile sperm shouldn’t be a source of pride. It’s not like it’s a result of your efforts or anything. Honestly, I’d want to be infertile, then I wouldn’t need birth control.
David: Babies do happen accidentally. Many people have children they’re not prepared for nor want. That’s a dumb statement. Pregnancy is only sexy some of the time, other times it is opposite. It’s weird.
Dragonfly: If you’re saying that because of considering abortion, then doing that would also cause an abortion you know.
Anyway to the OP: I’m more for the abortion, but you seem pretty cool and would make a better parent than the norm so if you think you can support her, go ahead. If you DO abort, make sure to enjoy a couple weeks of not needing birth control. I guess that’d make the moralists twinge though, heh.
December 6th, 2007 at 1:57 pm
You already know the joy of having a child now the question is do you want another? If the answer is no maybe your consider giving the child up for adoption rather than an abortion?
December 6th, 2007 at 5:05 pm
The thing that I would probably consider most is whether you can live with the possibility that you might really want a child in the future and it may not be as easy to conceive (and you’ve already experienced those difficulties). Aside from that, the best anyone can do is make an informed decision and try not to look back.
XOXO Good Luck, dear
December 6th, 2007 at 5:23 pm
Keep the baby, Kill yourself
December 6th, 2007 at 9:51 pm
Have the baby. Give it up for adoption to someone that really cares. You’re pathetic and a sad case for a human being.
December 7th, 2007 at 4:22 am
Do us all a favor and kill the baby with a coathanger
take pics of course duhh!
stick a vag cam if you can get your grimy hands on one of those
when all is said and done, and you’ve contemplated the hell out of such a “hard” decision ..take a regular cam and make a snuff film..only kill your faggot boyfriend and than put the gun to your head..stop polluting our gene pool with such faggotry
we need less idiots like yourself
December 7th, 2007 at 5:30 am
Now THESE were the kind of comments I was expecting to get. It was all the thoughtful, intelligent, witty stuff I got earlier on that was unpredictable.
Also, Web Mistress gets points for using the correct “you’re.”
December 7th, 2007 at 9:00 am
I like the way that they think calling me a “faggot” is the worst thing they could say to me. I don’t happen to be gay, but, for the most part, I’d be in good company if I were.
I think someone needs to re-read their new testament.
Golden Rule; Judge not…;Turn the other cheek;Blessed are the MEEK; etc. Either you believe it or you don’t–I don’t have an imaginary (Skygod) friend, but I do my best to follow these rules. Personally, I think they come from evolutionarily-developed instincts.
By all means, continue to vent your impotent rage here. It is fascinating. TBK’s unwavering dedication to free speech, and tolerant reactions are equally fascinating to me. I would have wanted to delete some of these yahoos.
December 7th, 2007 at 11:58 am
I completely disagree that Beautiful and Beau should be removed from the gene pool. We need people like them.
I support you in whatever you do, but since you asked our opinion: I think the timing is just wrong. If I were in your shoes I would have an abortion. When you decide the time is right you will raise an amazing, beautiful child.
December 7th, 2007 at 7:53 pm
Well… I don’t really have any two cents to add. But, you know whatever your decision, we’ll all stand by you, 100%, and offer what support we can! Good luck!
December 8th, 2007 at 1:45 am
sell the baby to michael jackson
December 8th, 2007 at 9:44 am
Junior: Mom, all the kids at school keep teasing me. They say I was an orgy accident. They say I came from a mangy twat.
Mommy: I think they meant menage-a-trois. And it wasn’t an orgy. It was a meaningful night of romance and bliss between your father, myself, and some woman we picked up at a truck stop.
Junior: My dad is a trucker?
Mommy: No, he’s in prison. You know, the guy who sends you a card every Christmas? Steve?
Junior: The card says Paul.
Mommy: I could have sworn his name was Steve…anyhoo, after I got knocked up, I blogged about it on the web, and then I let the internet decide whether or not to abort you. Lucky for you, the internet voted “PIX PLZ LOL”.
December 8th, 2007 at 9:53 am
All right, this one was awesome. LOL!
December 9th, 2007 at 10:02 am
Congrats, MsBeautifulGoddess!