Ask The Slut: Are Virgins Really That Bad?
Filed under: Ask The Slut - June 21, 2007 @ 4:03 am
Dear Slut,
Do you think that sexual experience makes much of a difference in bed? Two of my past boyfriends were virgins when I met them, and they turned out to be great lovers. Is it possible that less experience can be a plus in that people have more of a spark, curiosity and openness for learning new things?
- The Devirginator
Dear D,
Look at you, corrupting the virgins. Yes, I’m jealous. Oh my god, a thousand times yes - sexual inexperience has nothing to do with how good a person is in bed. I haven’t been with a virgin since I was 16 (I run in a different circle than you). He was my second sex partner, the same age as me, and much better in bed than the 24-year-old douchebag who took my virginity (I’m terribly embarrassed I fucked a guy named Greg).
As for lately, to be fair I think a lot of swingers are talented due to their experience, but I’ve had great luck with men who have only been with a small number of people or who haven’t had sex in a long time. Being with them is like getting to experience all the firsts again for the first time - masturbating in front of someone, spending a lazy day in bed, etc. Also in my book, if you haven’t had sex for more than a year, you become a virgin again. To be clear, I never ever ever want to be a virgin again.
Finally, the best people in bed are the ones you share open communication with. And if both of your goals is to put the other person’s pleasure first, then everyone wins. And is happily exhausted.
June 21st, 2007 at 5:32 pm
Um, at my age I don’t do virgins anymore either. But in my book guys with lots of experience are usually jerks. I hate feeling like somebody jots me down (if that) as No. 728 on his list. You get a more respectful treatment when you’re between No. 1 and No. 5 on a guy’s list.
June 21st, 2007 at 7:38 pm
I know someone who is exactly your age that’s still chasing virgins. She’s worthy of the title “Devirginator”. What’s the deal with all you horny women devirginating these poor defenseless and trusting guys? Did they put up much of a fight?
June 21st, 2007 at 8:01 pm
I bet 5 or 10 percent of my students are virgins. Some are even cute, but somehow I fail to get excited by guys who are too young. And the virgins in my past put up no fight at all
Boring! I mean, now that I have muscles, it would be so much fun to hold down a screaming guy with an erection.
June 21st, 2007 at 8:23 pm
I can almost picture the poor guy screaming “No! Please Lolita, don’t take advantage of me! Don’t put that in there! Stop bouncing on me!”. Actually, it sounds good to me. I’m adding that to my list.
June 22nd, 2007 at 12:38 am
Can somebody stop these two from turning the comments section into foreplay again.
Anyway, one thing I don’t like about virgins is the huge sense of responsibility that comes with it! These guys are going to think about you for the rest of their lives and I think the first time you have sex often really has an affect on your future sexual likes and dislikes. Meh, I like people who know at least a little bit about what they like, too.
June 22nd, 2007 at 5:33 am
Come on Manj, this is a sex blog. It would be sooooo wrong to ban foreplay from a sex blog. Were my comments disturbing? I’ll try to tone it down a bit for YOUR sake. I’m not sure anyone else was bothered by it but I don’t want to upset anyone.
June 22nd, 2007 at 7:38 am
It’s not foreplay I have a problem with and it’s certainly not anything R-rated or X-rated I would ever have a problem with. It’s more the annoying several-posts-in-a-row (8 last time) of you two simpering at one another. Just gets kind of tiresome, eh? Cheers.