The Beautiful Kind

I often notice that swingers get a bad rap. A friend of mine once told me he would never allow his children to be around someone he knew to be a swinger. Polyamorous people tend to think swingers are just about dildos and sex, whereas poly non-monogamy focuses more on relationships and love. It makes swingers seem like they care more about notches on the bedposts than about other people.

To be sure, swingers are a highly sexual group of people, and they have been known to refer to themselves as “cum sluts” or pick up another couple for a hot one night stand. But it is much more common for them to develop close friendships and bonds that extend beyond the hot tub.

Swingers are basically a cross-section of the general population. You’ll find plumbers, doctors, UPS men, bikers, moms, and professors on swinger websites, not to mention all body types and ages. I would say the majority of swingers are white couples in their 30’s and 40’s, but there are many couples giving it a go in their early 20’s, and African American and Asians and others adding diversity to the mix. They often have children and tend to be loving, tolerant parents.

So not only will swingers take a strap on to you or host orgies, but they will also help you move, arrange neighborhood cook-outs, buy you flowers, and bake cupcakes for the classroom party. Cuz you know what? These are the nicest, most generous folks, the ones who have really taken the lesson of sharing they learned in grade school very much to heart.

Writing this has made me think of some personal swinger stories that I will share next - the good, the bad, and the UGLY.